Adoptive Families, the award-winning national adoption magazine, is the leading adoption information source for families before, during, and after adoption.


September/October 2010
Vol. 43 No. 5




"We're Adopting!" by Colleen Calvani

Adoptive Families readers share the when, what, and how of announcing their decisions to grow their families.
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Adoption 101 by AF Editors

Ten measures parents can take to ensure that adoption is treated accurately and sensitively at school.
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Is It Adoption or Is It Life? by Robert Barnett

Five top therapists offer expert advice on how to distinguish adoption from normal childhood development.
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Parenting tips and advice for every age and stage

Ages 0-2: Beyond Growth Charts by Dana E. Johnson, M.D., Ph.D.

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Ages 3-5: Express Yourself by Joanne Solchany, Ph.D.

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Ages 6-8: When Classmates Ask by Fran Eisenman

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Ages 9-12: The Urge to Overprotect by Julie Michaels

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Ages 13+: Around the Dinner Table by Debbie Riley, M.S.

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From the Editor

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A forum for parents to connect.

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Ask AF

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• The latest adoption news; two new resources for waiting and adoptive families.

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• Gear: infant carriers, plus guidelines for using slings safely; notable blog posts

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Calendar of Events

Find an event for your family to attend.

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Waiting Game by Eileen Hummel

Adoptive moms-to-be are expecting the same joy as pregnant women. So why do people react differently to the news?

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About Birthparents by Laura Larissa Scott

Despite never hearing back, this mom has been writing to her son's birthmother for more than 20 years.

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Living with Diversity by Samantha L. Hines

When a family's multiracial status isn't obvious, is it the parent's job to proclaim it to the world?

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Summer Fun Contest Winners

See the shots that stole our hearts, from the more than 400 photos AF readers uploaded to

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At Home by Wendy Flemons

Can a Band-Aid do more than heal a physical wound? One mom finds out.

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The Experts

Adoption Law by Janna J. Annest

Tips on finding the right U.S. professionals to facilitate your journey to adopt.

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Parenting Transracially by Deborah Johnson

Talking about differences can help our kids enter the "real world" with confidence.

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Adoption Medicine by Deborah Borchers, M.D.

Everything you need to know about feeding, and bonding with, baby.

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Child Development, Family, Health, and Education Research

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