Adoptive Families, the award-winning national adoption magazine, is the leading adoption information source for families before, during, and after adoption.


May/June 2011
Vol. 44 No. 3




Helping Family Understand Adoption by Leonard Felder, Ph.D.

How to respond when relatives make insensitive comments about adoption.
p. 27

After the Bliss by Shelley Page

More than half of new parents may experience post-adoption depression. Here's the expert advice to help you get past it.
p. 30

The Other Mother by Jennifer Davidson and Jana Wolff

A birthmom and an adoptive mom explore the complex—and surprising—realities of open adoption.
p. 33

8 Conversations to Have with Your Teen by Robert Barnett

The expert advice that won't leave you speechless when you hear, "You're not my real mother!"
p. 35


Parenting tips and advice for every age and stage

The Early Years: Safe and Sound Asleep by Marybeth Lambe, Ph.D.

p. 38

Preschool: Feeling Good About Race by Susan Branco Alvarado, L.P.C.

p. 40

Elementary: Before I Was "Chosen" by Holly van Gulden and Lisa M. Bartels-Rabb

p. 41

Middle & High School: Revealing Painful Details by Debbie B. Riley, M.S.

p. 42


From the Editor

p. 4


p. 5

Ask AF

p. 8

Reader Photos: Hugs & Kisses Photo Contest Winners

See the winners NOW ON AFC!

p. 17


The latest adoption news

p. 18

Bookstore: Notable new reads and a DVD

p. 18

Calendar of events

Find an event for your family to attend.

p. 19

AF Picks

Readers advise on selecting meaningful gifts for the birthparents at the time of placement.

p. 19

• "To All the Mothers I Know..."

p. 19

Waiting Game

Should you arrange for day care during the wait, or after your child is home? Readers share their stories and advice in this must-read for parents-to-be.

p. 21

And So It Begins by Julie Anderson

A mom explains how she (sort of) breastfed her child.

p. 22

Our Story by Claire Houston

Recognizing the fierce feelings of motherhood.

p. 24

Our Story by Melanie Thernstrom

Third-party reproduction can be part of a family's fairy-tale beginning.

p. 25

Look at Him Now by Gretchen Wright

"Our 'special-needs' son became his sister's guiding light."

p. 50


Transracial Parenting by Lois Melina

Challenging white privilege

p. 10

Open Adoption by Kathleen Silber

How to explain birth siblings

p. 12

Adoption Law by Peter Wiernicki

The ins and outs of readoption

p. 14

Adoption Medicine by Deborah Borchers, M.D.

Ensuring updated immunizations

p. 16

Child Development, Family, Health, and Education Research

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