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GROWING UP ADOPTED

Adopting

An adoptive mother looks back on the moment she met her daughter

“Finding My Inner Mom”

For years, I felt ambivalence about becoming a parent, and worry that I wouldn’t be a “perfect” mother. In an open letter to my daughter, I look back on that moment of calm and utter clarity when we met.

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2016-2017 Adoption Cost & Timing Survey Results represented by piggy bank, calculator, and calendar

Adoption Cost and Timing in 2016-2017

Each year, Adoptive Families polls newly formed families across the country to get actual information on the cost and length of time it took them to complete their adoptions. See the results of the most recent 2016-2017 Adoption Cost & Timing Survey.

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A mother holds her newly adopted baby as she thinks of the moment she knew she was going to adopt

Parents Share: “When I Knew I Was Going to Adopt”

Parents share the moment they knew in their hearts that their path to parenthood would involve adoption, whether they always knew or it came after years of trying to conceive.

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parent holding newborn baby's hand in the hospital after a "stork drop" last-minute adoption placement

Parents Share: Our Last-Minute “Stork Drop” Adoption

We asked, did you get "the call" that you'd been selected by a birth mother after the baby was already born? Parents respond with their experiences and been-there advice.

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Adoption Experts answer your questions.

Ask AF: What to Do the First Time a Foster Child Comes to Stay with Us?

"We are preparing for our first overnight visit with sisters we hope to adopt from foster care, and are nervous. What are we supposed to do for 24 hours with two children who are essentially strangers?"

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An adoptive mother looks back on the moment she met her daughter

“Finding My Inner Mom”

For years, I felt ambivalence about becoming a parent, and worry that I wouldn’t be a “perfect” mother. In an open letter to my daughter, I look back on that moment of calm and utter clarity when we met.

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ecuador adoption

Ecuador Adoption Fast Facts

Wondering how to adopt from Ecuador? Find statistics, prospective parent requirements, personal stories, and more resources.

Bonding

Elizabeth Curry with some of her children featured in May M. Tchao's documentary Hayden and Her Family.

“It Takes No Special Power to Love a Child”

As she anticipates the release of her documentary Hayden & Her Family, the filmmaker reconnects with the mother of 12 she profiled to discuss special needs adoption, parenting outside “normal” boundaries, and how loving a child changes you.

“Breathing”

As I prepared to adopt my second child, I welcomed the home study worker into a perfectly clean and ordered home. The scene that greeted her at her post-placement visit was, well, different—but much more real.

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A dad walks in the forest with his daughter after adopting after age 50.

“Finally Father’s Day”

I became a dad at age 50, and it changed my life in ways I never could have expected. It was the greatest gift.

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“Breathing”

As I prepared to adopt my second child, I welcomed the home study worker into a perfectly clean and ordered home. The scene that greeted her at her post-placement visit was, well, different—but much more real.

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Elizabeth Curry with some of her children featured in May M. Tchao's documentary Hayden and Her Family.

“It Takes No Special Power to Love a Child”

As she anticipates the release of her documentary Hayden & Her Family, the filmmaker reconnects with the mother of 12 she profiled to discuss special needs adoption, parenting outside “normal” boundaries, and how loving a child changes you.

ADVICE & SUPPORT

Foster Adoption

Adoption Experts answer your questions.

Ask AF: What to Do the First Time a Foster Child Comes to Stay with Us?

"We are preparing for our first overnight visit with sisters we hope to adopt from foster care, and are nervous. What are we supposed to do for 24 hours with two children who are essentially strangers?"

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Adoption Experts answer your questions.

Ask AF: Advice for Our “Ice Breaker” Meeting with a 10-Year-Old Boy?

"We are adopting from foster care and have an 'ice breaker' meeting with a 10-year-old boy scheduled for tomorrow. I’m super nervous. Can anyone share advice about forging a connection?"

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The Littlefield foster family – author Deirdre with her husband and two sons

“What Being a Foster Family Has Taught My Children”

Amazingly, the number one question we’re asked about being a foster family is: “Are you afraid of what they'll teach your children?” So, what have my kids learned? To start—to be open, generous, non-judgmental, thankful for their warm home….

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Domestic

parent holding newborn baby's hand in the hospital after a "stork drop" last-minute adoption placement

Parents Share: Our Last-Minute “Stork Drop” Adoption

We asked, did you get "the call" that you'd been selected by a birth mother after the baby was already born? Parents respond with their experiences and been-there advice.

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A woman plays with her child after sharing her adoption decision with her family

Share Your Story: Announcing Your Decision to Adopt

We polled our newsletter subscribers, "How did you tell your extended family about your decision to adopt?" Here's what some of you said.

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Female hands, writing blogs on adoption or infertility

Online Adoption Resources for Prospective Parents

Our recommendations for online adoption resources — from government sites to attorney directories — selected by the editors of Adoptive Families magazine.

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International

An adoptive mother looks back on the moment she met her daughter

“Finding My Inner Mom”

For years, I felt ambivalence about becoming a parent, and worry that I wouldn’t be a “perfect” mother. In an open letter to my daughter, I look back on that moment of calm and utter clarity when we met.

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The Opher Shapiro family

“Our Journey to China to Adopt Our Daughter”

We left our house this morning a family of three, but the next time we walk through our front door, it will be as a family of four.

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The Kremlin in Russia

“Visiting Our Daughter’s Russian Orphanage”

Three years after her adoption, we returned to our daughter's Russian orphanage to visit her caregivers and friends there.

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Talking

Three mothers pushing strollers in the city, one asking a nosy adoption question

Parents Share: No End to the Nosy Adoption Questions

When you formed your family through adoption, everyone seems to think it's their right to ask you nosy questions about adoption. Readers share some of the most common—as well as some of the most outrageous.

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As in the movie Sliding Doors, adoptees grow up imagining alternate realities

“Sliding Doors”

We all imagine different ways our lives could have played out. For adoptees, these fantasies may seem particularly compelling: ‘What would my life have been like if I had not been adopted?’

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A lifebook in progress

Capturing Your Child’s Journey Through Life

Four families share how they fit making scrapbooks and lifebooks into their busy lives after adopting.

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Three mothers pushing strollers in the city, one asking a nosy adoption question

Parents Share: No End to the Nosy Adoption Questions

When you formed your family through adoption, everyone seems to think it's their right to ask you nosy questions about adoption. Readers share some of the most common—as well as some of the most outrageous.

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Transracial

The Grammar of Untold Stories: An Interview with Lois Melina

Lois Melina has been a voice of wisdom and authority in the world of adoption for decades. We connected with Melina upon the publication of her latest book, The Grammar of Untold Stories,a collection of personal essays, to discuss immigration and international adoption, transracial adoption and the Black Lives Matter movement, and the many ways adoption and infertility continue to surface in her writing.

“Almost Famous”

The day we became a transracial adoptive family was the day we lost our anonymity in our community. We’ve learned to handle the extra attention with some advance prep before going public, some choice words, and some perspective.

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A mother and her kids at the airport, leaving for a heritage travel trip.

An Overview of Heritage Travel

Heritage travel can help your child understand her birth culture, and her origin story. Plan a trip that will work for your family by answering these questions.

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The Grammar of Untold Stories: An Interview with Lois Melina

Lois Melina has been a voice of wisdom and authority in the world of adoption for decades. We connected with Melina upon the publication of her latest book, The Grammar of Untold Stories,a collection of personal essays, to discuss immigration and international adoption, transracial adoption and the Black Lives Matter movement, and the many ways adoption and infertility continue to surface in her writing.

Health & Development

Family Dynamics

“Breathing”

As I prepared to adopt my second child, I welcomed the home study worker into a perfectly clean and ordered home. The scene that greeted her at her post-placement visit was, well, different—but much more real.

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School

three friends sitting on grass, talking about adoption

Parents Share: What My Child’s Friends Want to Know About Adoption

Parents share the questions their children have been asked by friends and classmates over the years, from being in an orphanage to whether they know their "real" parents.

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Peers & Friendships

Modern Families

Holidays & Celebrations

Readers share the holiday gifts they exchange with their children's birth families, including homemade ornaments, photos, and other ideas.

Parent-to-Parent: Holiday Gifts for Your Child’s Birth Family

We asked our readers: If you'll be giving your child's birth parents a gift this holiday season, what is it and how will you give it to them? Read the answers from adoptive parents.

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