Adoptive Families, the award-winning national adoption magazine, is the leading adoption information source for families before, during, and after adoption.


May/June 2007
Vol. 40 No. 3




The Facts of Life

What do you do when your three-year-old asks about your pregnant next-door neighbor, or when your teen wants to follow in the footsteps of her once-teenaged birthmother? AF's panel of experts gives you the age-appropriate answers you need to satisfy any child's curiosity.
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Perception & Reality: The Untold Story of Domestic Adoption by Eliza Newlin Carney

How often do you hear that domestic adoption isn't the option for you, because it's too expensive and risky, or too difficult and time-consuming? Discover the healthier new reality of domestic adoption, and hear what adoption professionals say you must know before starting the process to adopt in the U.S.
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Something Old, Something New by Carrie Howard

When it's time to celebrate, our families know just how to mark the occasion. See how we've honored important events with simple yet heartfelt ceremonies, and learn how to create your own. Inside, AF shares the best ideas, links and resources—whether you're celebrating a new arrival or an everyday moment.
WEB EXTRA: Find more ideas for forging bonds at
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Think your child can capture America's heart? Enter our photo contest for a chance to win great prizes and to see your child in the pages — or on the cover — of Adoptive Families. In this issue, AF's photo contest judges share expert tips for capturing a winning picture.
WEB EXTRA: Learn how to enter at

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Parenting tips and advice for every age and stage

Ages 0-2: On the Safe Side by Mark Widome, M.D.

After months of waiting, you finally get "the call." Is your home really ready for a baby?

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Ages 3-5: Saying "No!" (Without Guilt) by Fran Eisenman

Your preschooler pleads for things and refuses to listen. Why is it so hard to set limits?

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Ages 6-8: Birthparent Fantasies by Joanne Solchany, Ph.D.

Your child may never have met his first mom and dad. But that doesn't mean he's not spinning stories about them.

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Ages 9-12: Keep Talking! by Marybeth Lambe, M.D.

Even if your tween grows silent, don't let the adoption conversation lapse.

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Ages 13+: "Is That Your Family?" by Debbie B. Riley

By now, you and your teen have established a firm family bond. But outsiders may not see it that way.

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Ask AF

Sharing tough information; minimizing sibling rivalry; helping an older child adjust; and more.

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Adoption News & Notes

Study praises adoptive families; China adoptee reunites with her birth family; Ukraine expected to rule out singles; and more.

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And So It Begins... by Greg MacKay

As a foster family, we provide a temporary haven to kids shuffled around by a fate they didn't deserve.
WEB EXTRA: Celebrate National Foster Care Month in May by learning more at

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Calendar of Events

Find an event for your family to attend.

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Baby bottles: Moms in the know test the best.

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About Birthparents by Lori Dowd

I worried that my daughter's birthmother was more of a mom than I'd ever be. She was the one who helped me see otherwise.

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Our Story by Stacy Clark

Strangers ask me the same question I used to ask while preparing to adopt: "How was the bonding?" It was one I'd had to find the answer to on my own.

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Single Parent by Laura Broadwell

My daughter — like my aging mother — feels an almost primal pull toward her birthmother.

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Family Album

Your photos, your moments.

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A sequel to a beloved children's storybook; a memoir of loss; reader-nominated favorites that reinforce the feeling of family.
WEB EXTRA: Tell us your favorite adoption must-reads, in this month's poll, and get a chance to snag a special gift!

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At Home by Jeanne Marie Laskas

Mothers come in all shapes and sizes — and species.

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The Experts

Adoption Medicine by Deborah Borchers, M.D.

Are your child's vision and hearing on track? Inside, tips for post-arrival medical screenings.

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Parenting Transracially by Deborah Johnson

When to let kids deal with racism on their own.

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Open Adoption by Kathleen Silber

Does your child want to know why her sibling talks to his birthmom more than she does with hers? Here's how to help kids understand different levels of birthparent contact.

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