Adoptive Families, the award-winning national adoption magazine, is the leading adoption information source for families before, during, and after adoption.


July/August 2007
Vol. 40 No. 4




Summer Reading

AF editors searched far and wide to find the most powerful adoption writing for your reading pleasure. Read excerpts, and browse our first annual Best Adoption Books list, featuring books for kids, adoption memoirs, and how-to guides.
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Adopting an Older Child? by Carrie Howard

If you're thinking of adopting a child at toddler age or beyond, don't miss this guide. Parents and adoption experts describe the special joys that come with bringing home a school-age child, and the unique parenting approach — flexible strategies, lots of patience, realistic expectations — that helps their families bond. Plus, unconventional and highly effective tips from "been there" parents.
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What's in a Name? by Lisa Milbrand

There are no strict guidelines to naming your child. Do you keep the one he's given or blend it with your own? Do you consult a baby names book and find the "perfect" one, only to change your mind once you meet your child? AF readers share how they made the decision. Also inside, know the legal issues that arise when naming your child.
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Parenting tips and advice for every age and stage

Ages 0-2: The Right Fit by Marybeth Lambe, M.D.

Our guide to finding a great pediatrician knowledgeable about adoption, plus key questions you must ask prospective doctors.

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Ages 3-5: The Tales They Tell by Joanne Solchany, Ph.D.

Preschoolers love stories... so which are pure fun, and which represent real fears? Listen carefully and you'll learn a thing or two.

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Ages 6-8: Different, Yet the Same by Joni S. Mantell

Playmates and mentors offer kids a common ground. Inside, how and where to help your child connect with other adoptees — and embrace his culture.

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Ages 9-12: A New 'Forever' by Fran Eisenman

Remarriage, divorce, and untimely deaths occur in all families, but in our families, kids can feel the effects especially keenly. Learn how you can open doors to different bonds and traditions, no matter the circumstances.

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Ages 13+: Reelin' Em In by Debbie B. Riley

Can't get your teen to open up on adoption? Rent a movie!
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Media Focus by Kay Marner

Children's author Robert Munsch talks about the classic, Love You Forever, his latest album, and more.
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Ask AF

Sleep tips for newborns; explaining difficult details of the adoption story; great books about anti-Asian racism; and more.

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News & Notes

Nepal suspends adoptions; Guatemala makes progress toward the Hague; two states grant open records; and more.

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Calendar of Events

Find an event for your family to attend.

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Bulletin Board

Online growth charts; multicultural toys; kid-friendly photo album; medical statistics.
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About Birthparents by Tracy Hahn-Burkett

This family resisted plans of an open adoption. So how do they respond to an unexpected request for contact from a birthmom overseas?

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Our Story by Dawn Friedman

Although open adoption's a give-and-take, this mom learned that her feelings of sorrow wouldn't bring the birthmom happiness.

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Single Parent by Laura Broadwell

Visitors to this family's cluttered home might see a mess — or the stories that bound a mother to her daughter.

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Living with Diversity by Marybeth Lambe, M.D.

When is a compliment from a stranger not a compliment? Inside, a heartfelt glimpse into the life of a multicultural, multiracial family.

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Family Album

Your photos, your moments.

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Creating resilient children; tales for kids from Ethiopia; a narrative of women forced into adoption plans; and more.
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At Home by Terra Trevor

Surprise visits are not part of the homestudy procedure....

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The Experts

Adoption Medicine by Deborah Borchers, M.D.

Welcome home! Inside, find tips for easing the transition for babies and toddlers, including the initial meeting, feedings, sleeping, establishing routines, bonding through play, and making time for mommy.

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Parenting Transracially by Deborah Johnson

If you have a teen in high school, chances are you may never have a direct, matter-of-fact dialogue about the subject of dating. That shouldn't keep you from broaching it.

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Open Adoption by Kathleen Silber

Losing touch with a birthparent is not uncommon. Inside, learn how to reestablish contact, and how to help your child understand why it's been a while.

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