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November/December 2007
Vol. 40 No. 6




Celebrate Adoption

The third Saturday in November is National Adoption Day, but you can keep the spirit alive all year long by reading our calendar, donating to worthy causes, and learning how to lobby for adoption benefits at your workplace. See our readers' picks for adoption-friendly companies, and find out how you can snag a free adoption poster!
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Picture This!

The winners of our Second Annual Photo Contest have cornered the market on cute.
WEB EXTRA: Coming soon — your chance to see the winners and vote for Readers' Choice! In the meantime, upload your best shots at and show them off to other readers.
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Lifebook Lessons

Five experts — from Lifebooks author Beth O'Malley to's Jennifer Demar — answer your questions in this comprehensive how-to guide for creating what will likely become your child's favorite read-to-me book. What topics should you address? How do you tackle difficult information? Should a newborn get a lifebook? We'll answer these questions, and more.
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A Delicate Balance

In her moving memoir, Another Mother, Sarah Gerstenzang relates her often painful, yet life-affirming journey as mother to a waiting child.
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Parenting tips and advice for every age and stage

Ages 0-2: Travels with Baby by Marybeth Lambe, M.D.

Your extended family is dying to see your new addition. We'll share how to get through the holidays without stress. Plus, tips for a smooth journey while on the road.
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Ages 3-5: In a Family Way by Fran Eisenman

Does your preschooler hit you with surprising questions at the most unexpected times and places? Children this age are interested in families, and we'll share how to begin a dialogue and handle even the toughest questions about pregnancy, birth families, or adoption.
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Ages 6-8: Going Solo by Lee Varon

Single-parent homes are increasingly common, but by the time our kids reach school age, they're bound to have been asked "the daddy question." Inside, learn how to help your child feel more positive about your family setup.

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Ages 9-12: Fear of Losing You by Joni S. Mantell

At this age, our kids see disasters in the news and may have experienced the death of an older family member, so it's not uncommon for them to wonder about their parents' mortality. Learn what they're really saying, and how you can address their concerns.

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Ages 13+: A Search for Identity by Debbie B. Riley

Teen adoptees face unique challenges in establishing their identities, and as they approach adulthood, they'll strive to discover who they are. Get strategies to support and encourage your teen to pursue her own talents and interests, however different they may be.

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Ask AF

Race and beauty; "drugging" a child to sleep; a legal change of name; attaching to dad; and more.

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Calendar of Events

Find an event for your family to attend.

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News & Notes

Education bill to benefit foster kids; Guatemala update; Ontario opens records; and more.

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Bulletin Board

Holiday ornaments; 2008 charitable calendars; shopping with a heart; pajamas for foster kids.

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Waiting Game by Ann Turnquist

One mom adopted after a family she barely knew provided the encouragement she needed. Now she "pays it forward" by doing the same for others. Plus, AF readers share what they've told others who are considering adoption.

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Our Story by Kimberlee Davison

A family questions its ability to raise a child with a facial deformity — but is given the courage to look deeper.

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Single Parent by Laura Broadwell

When a nine-year-old child asks her mom, "When are you getting married?" her question may have a not-so-hidden meaning.

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In My Opinion by Barbara Bisantz Raymond

Raymond, the author of The Baby Thief: The Untold Story of Georgia Tann, the Baby Seller Who Corrupted Adoption, speaks out on why every state must stop the practice of sealing adoptees' birth certificates.

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Living with Diversity by Margot Starbuck Hausmann

Can two ordained Christian pastors parent their Indian child in a faith other than Hinduism? This family does just that, and finds it's an ongoing act of faith.

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Book Reviews

Celebrating African-American hair; a memoir from reunited twins; The Family Book author Todd Parr debuts his latest; and more.
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At Home by Karen Czajkowski

A daughter joins her family with a mysterious scar on her leg, adding another piece to the puzzle that is her young life.

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The Experts

Parenting Transracially by Deborah Johnson

Accepting that strangers' comments are often well-meaning can open you and your child to great new resources.

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Open Adoption by Kathleen Silber

Holidays are the perfect time to express appreciation for birthparents — and to show a child how much he's loved.

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Child Development, Family, Health, and Education Research

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