Adoptive Families, the award-winning national adoption magazine, is the leading adoption information source for families before, during, and after adoption.


May/June 2008
Vol. 41 No. 3




The Second Time Around by Lisa Milbrand

What to ask yourself—and how to prepare your child—when you’re ready to adopt again.
WEB EXTRA: Find great articles on raising siblings at
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Special Report: Raising Asian Children

Adoptive parents, adult adoptees, and kids themselves talk about racism, beauty, cultural ties, being a whiz kid, and why it’s cool to start a support group.
WEB EXTRA: Amy Souza shares a wonderful recipe for Moon Cakes.
p. 31

Open Adoption Over the Years by Barbara Meltz

How to keep your relationship with the birthparents alive and well, as you child grows—and both families change.
WEB EXTRA: Read more from families in open adoptions at
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Parenting tips and advice for every age and stage

Ages 0-2: When Birthmoms Get the Blues by Joni S. Mantell

It may take some time for your child’s birthmother to work through her grief. But there are ways you can help.
WEB EXTRA: Read more about birthmothers in their own words at

p. 41

Ages 3-5: Bedtime Battles? By Sarah Springer, M.D.

Preschool kids sometimes put up a fuss at night. Here’s how to help everyone get some sleep.
WEB EXTRA: Find more information about getting a good night’s rest at

p. 42

Ages 6-8: “You Can Do It!” by Marybeth Lambe, M.D.

Grade-school kids need a pat on the back (and a little space) to become independent and strong.
WEB EXTRA: Read more about adoption in school at

p. 43

Ages 9-12: What Will Their Friends Think? By Fran Eisenman

As kids grow up, they look to their friends for acceptance—and desperately want to fit in.
WEB EXTRA: Help your child explain adoption to others by practicing the strategies in Talking Tips.

p. 44

Ages 13+: College Choices by Debbie B. Riley

Some teens are ready to go away to school and hit the books. Others may need different options.
WEB EXTRA: Learn more about college choices in Is College Possible?

p. 45


Ask AF

Struggling with grief over infertility; how to start a blog; discussing difficult information; and more.

p. 10

Bulletin Board

A podcast links kids to books; songs from around the globe; how Congress voted on children’s issues; and more.

p. 13

Calendar of Events

Find an event for your family to attend.

p. 14

News & Notes

A rise in domestic adoption; employers offer more benefits; Guatemala’s hague status; and more.

p. 16

News Focus

The Hague Convention enters into force in the U.S.—what changes lie ahead?

p. 18

About Birthparents by Annie Kassof

Googling the names of a young girl’s birthparents turns up some unexpected results.

p. 19

And So It Begins by Janice Fitzgerald

Whom do you turn to for comfort and advice after your own mother has died?

p. 21

Our Story by Liza Carens Salerno

After meeting her daughter’s birth sisters, a mother is blindsided by love.

p. 22

Single Parent by Laura Broadwell

For all of Eleni’s happiness, she still thinks of her birth family in China.

p. 25

Family Album

Your photos, your moments.
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p. 48

Book Reviews

An adoption fairytale; a guide to parenting internationally adopted children; a memoir about autism and adoption; and more.

p. 53

At Home by Lily Prellezo

An adoptive mom learns that her daughter is pregnant—and wonders how to guide her.

p. 66

The Experts

Adoption Medicine by Deborah Borchers, M.D.

Assessing the medical information you'll receive with your referral.
WEB EXTRA:Read more articles by Dr. Borchers and other adoption medicine specialists at

p. 48

Parenting Transracially by Deborah Johnson

How to form cross-cultural friendships.
WEB EXTRA: Find more articles by Deborah Johnson on our Transracial Adoption Expert page.

p. 50

Open Adoption by Kathleen Silber

Helping family understand the ongoing relationship.
WEB EXTRA: Read more expert answers from Kathleen Silber on our Open Adoption Expert page.

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