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November/December 2008
Vol. 41 No. 6




Photo Finish

We're head-over-heels for the adorable winners of our Third Annual Photo Contest.
WEB EXTRA: We want your vote! Weigh in with your picks for Readers' Choice at
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Special Feature: A Child to Love

In honor of National Adoption Month, read our report on foster care adoption -- the successes and heartbreaking failures.
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Talk to Me! by Carrie Howard

If your child isn't chattering away, he's not alone -- speech and language difficulties occur in about 10 percent of kids. The good news is that early recognition and intervention can make a big difference.
WEB EXTRA: Learn more about speech and language at
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Parenting tips and advice for every age and stage

Ages 0-2: Holidazed No More by Diana Schwab, M.Ed.

How to keep your cool during a stressful season -- with a new baby.

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Ages 3-5: Santa vs. Scrooge By Joanne Solchany, Ph.d.

Learn to set limits for preschoolers -- even when they're throwing a tantrum.

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Ages 6-8: Traditions, Take 2 by Marybeth Lambe, M.D.

Start a new ritual with your family this year.

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Ages 9-12: Mortifying Moms By Jayne Schooler

What's behind your preteen's sudden embarrassment to be seen with you?

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Ages 13+: Just Like Me by Debbie B. Riley

A support group can provide teens with a safe place to ask questions.

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• Heartwarming TV programs about adoption; reader poll results. Plus, take our Cost and Timing of Adoption Survey at

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• Holiday gifts that give back to children's charities.

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The latest adoption news; comments from readers like you.

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• Readers test websites for creating personalized photo calendars.

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From the Editor

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Ask AF

Helping a middle-schooler deal with teasing; defining "special needs;" requesting "Adopt-a-" language be changed; and more.

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Calendar of Events

Find an event for your family to attend.

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Waiting Game by Rosemary Starr

A prospective adoptive mom finds peace in a childhood memory, and can't wait to make merories with her child.

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Parenting the Child Who Waited by Melanie Curtright

A mom struggles to help her son as he mourns the loss of his foster family.

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Living with Diversity by Gaye Brown

Though they weren't looking for meaning, a family finds their homeland trip surprisingly memorable.

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About Birthparents by Diane Hood

Open adoption can present some sticky situations and miscommunications, but it's worth it.

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Single Parent by Laura Broadwell

An adventure vacation is a reminder of another scary time -- when she became a single mom.

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Candid writing from adult adoptees; parenting advice from a foster-adopter; the value of family traditions.

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At Home by Terra Trevor

A new furry pal turns out to be the key to family bonding.

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The Experts

Adoption Medicine by Deborah Borchers, M.D.

How to travel safely -- and stress-free -- with your child.
WEB EXTRA: Read more articles by Dr. Borchers and other adoption medicine specialists at

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Open Adoption by Kathleen Silber

The role of birth grandparents in your child's life.
WEB EXTRA: Read more expert answers from Kathleen Silber on our Open Adoption Expert page.

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NEW EXPERT! Older-Child Adoption by Gregory C. Keck, Ph.D.

The challenges you might face when adopting an older child.

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Parenting Transracially by Deborah Johnson

How to respond when a child struggles with religious identity.
WEB EXTRA: Find more articles by Deborah Johnson on our Transracial Adoption Expert page.

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