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May/June 2009
Vol. 42 No. 3




All in the Family

Our friends and relatives may mean well, but how do you respond to a comment like, "How could anyone give up such a wonderful baby?" or "She's such a pretty China doll"? AF's team of experts gives advice on answering calmly and confidently.
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Special Report: Adoption and the Economy by Lisa Milbrand

The current economy has required us to make many changes in our lives, including our plans to adopt. See results from the recent AF survey about the choices readers are making about when to adopt, which route to take, and where to find funding.
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When Senses Don't Make Sense by Marybeth Lambe, M.D.

Children who have Sensory Processing Disorder have trouble interpreting touch, sound, smell, and other sensory input. Here's how to help your child cope when everyday activities are overwhelming.
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Welcome Home

Our guide to meeting your baby and sharing those wonderful first moments together. Plus, tips for giving newborns a healthy start, advice on helping relatives and friends understand adoption, and suggestions for planning an adoption shower.
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Parenting tips and advice for every age and stage

Ages 0-2: Working on Attachment by Marybeth Lambe, M.D.

When you are at your desk from 9 to 5, how can you bond with your new baby?

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Ages 3-5: Question Confidence By Fran Eisenman

Other kids are going to ask about it--so prepare your preschooler for questions about adoption.

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Ages 6-8: "Don't Tell Anyone I Was Adopted" by Patty Cogen, Ed.D.

The school years bring the realization that not every child has two sets of parents. Here's how to help your child cope.

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Ages 9-12: The Perfect Child By Joni Mantell, LCSW

We want our children to do well--but we also want them to enjoy being kids. How do we help them strike a balance?

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Ages 13+: Race Matters by Debbie B. Riley

Teens need their parents' guidance in forming their racial identity.

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• Steven Curtis Chapman's songs resonate with our families

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The latest adoption news

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• Readers' picks for baby-care books for adoptive parents

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• Moms and kids review multicultural dolls

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From the Editor

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Ask AF

Making up stories about birthparents, explaining a lack of contact with the birth family, and more.

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Calendar of Events

Find an event for your family to attend.

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News Focus: Adopting from Ethiopia

What's changed in recent years, and what prospective parents can expect.

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Living with Diversity by Julie Staub

One mom's quest to create a dollhouse family that looks like her own.

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And So It Begins by Christina Clark

The first moments with a new son are better than expected--they just took forever to arrive!

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About Birthparents by Jennifer R. Salmon

A birthmother's passing leads one family to embrace openness with her relatives.

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Our Story by Shelley Lowery

A woman gets the sweetest Mother's Day gift she could have imagined.

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A story to help kids through a tough school project; a video that shows two perspectives on transracial adoption; and more.

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At Home by Colleen Wells

This family knows what home sounds like.

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The Experts

Adoption Medicine by Deborah Borchers, M.D.

What to expect when your child enters puberty.

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Single Parenting by Lee Varon, Ph.D.

How to answer the "daddy question."

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Parenting Transracially by Deborah Johnson

Joining country-specific adoption support groups--and balancing the needs of children born in two different countries.

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Child Development, Family, Health, and Education Research

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