Adoptive Families, the award-winning national adoption magazine, is the leading adoption information source for families before, during, and after adoption.


July/August 2009
Vol. 42 No. 4




Great Adoption Writing

Three powerful excerpts and a poignant essay selected by the editors of AF. Plus, our annual Best Books Lists feature titles, new and old, that will inspire, inform, and help you celebrate adoption with your children.
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Trip of a Lifetime by Rebecca Klein

For domestic adopters, getting the call is usually a frenzied, exciting, emotional time. Parents share their best tips on traveling without advance notice, caring for a newborn in a strange city, and bonding with a new baby.
p. 36

The Big Questions by JoAnne Solchany, Ph.D., ARNP

When children start to truly understand the concept of adoption, and realize they have a first family, new questions can arise. Find advice on talking to six- to eight-year-olds about difficult subjects.
p. 40

Book Excerpt: You Can Adopt: An Adoptive Families Guide

Learn how to be an adoption ambassador in this preview of our new how-to-adopt book.
p. 43


Parenting tips and advice for every age and stage

Ages 0-2: Worth a Shot by Sarah Springer, M.D.

The truth about vaccinations for infants, and how to protect your child.

p. 49

Ages 3-5: Real Parents Discipline By Joni S. Mantell, LCSW

Setting limits can be tough for parents--but it's important to discipline our children anyway.

p. 50

Ages 6-8: Movin' On Up by Patty Cogen, Ed.D.

If your family is moving this summer, here's how to help your child make the transition.

p. 51

Ages 9-12: Not-So-Sweet Emotion By Marybeth Lambe, M.D.

While preteens are gaining a better understanding of their adoption stories, they don't always know how to handle new feelings that arise.

p. 52

Ages 13+: Race Matters, Part 2 by Debbie B. Riley

Embracing your child's racial identity means embracing his friends, too. .

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• A film about an Ethiopian boy and his love for all of his mothers

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The latest adoption news

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• Our picks for novels for teens and tweens

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• Readers and their children review language DVDs

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From the Editor

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Ask AF

Explaining to a toddler why a foster child will be leaving; taming teasing in tweens; and more.

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Calendar of Events

Find an event for your family to attend.

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Our Story by Liza Carens Salerno

An adoptive-moms group provides answers, support, and friendship when their families need it most.

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Talking Points by Elizabeth Heavey, Ph.D., RN, CNM

From playtime to serious discussion and back--a mom reflects on how her daughter's anxious questions come up at surprising moments.

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About Birthparents by Samantha Hines

A potential birthmother's decision to parent comes as a shock to this mom, who attended the baby's birth, but it also offers a lesson.

p. 23

And So It Begins by Skila Brown

They say it's a risk to family harmony, but adopting out of birth order was a perfect fit for this family.

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A picture book for expectant big siblings; an adult adoptee's memoir of meeting her birth family; and a guide to raising teens.

p. 59

At Home by Angela Krueger

A family moves to the beat of a different drum--an African djembe drum, that is.

p. 66

The Experts

Open Adoption by Kathleen Silber

How to create a post-adoption contact agreement with the birthparents.

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Older Child by Gregory Keck, Ph.D.

From school to checkups to family time: what needs to be taken care of right after homecoming, and what can wait.

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Adoption Medicine by Deborah Borchers, M.D.

What parents need to know about prenatal drug exposure.

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Child Development, Family, Health, and Education Research

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