When Kids Deny Their Adoption

During the preteen years, some children deny their adoption as a defense mechanism. Here's how to deal and help them through it.

Preteens can have self-confidence issues around their adoption
Fran didn't usually listen to her 11-year-old's phone conversations, but this time she did. Callie was talking to a new friend. And Fran heard something that greatly disturbed her. "I don't know what you're talking about," Callie insisted. "Who told you I was adopted? That's just not true!" Fran was flabbergasted. Why would Callie deny she was adopted? Actually, such adoption denials aren't uncommon. They're the refuge of many preteens who are struggling with self-esteem and identity issues. Why don't ...

Many children reach a point where they pretend they aren’t adopted, in an effort to not be different. Instead of being hurt, try to understand where they’re coming from.


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