An expectant mother who’s making an open adoption plan wonders how to explain to her child that his baby sibling will be adopted by another family. A birth mother offers advice.
How to Talk About and Explain Adoption
Sample language, conversation guidelines, and other expert advice to help you explain adoption to your child, and answer questions from family, friends, and others.
While I acknowledge that the word carries only a hint of the day's complicated meaning, to me, "Gotcha" says it all.
A mother shares that her four-year-old has said, “You’re not my mom!” when angry. Fellow parents assure her this is normal and suggest different ways to respond.
Age limits for those adopting have been stretched or even eliminated. How might this affect the children of these "older" parents?
I'm not sure why I never told my children. But when they asked, I knew it was time to end the secrecy for good.
"Growing up, makeup felt like a mask—a cover-up for my true inner self."
When my granddaughter asked me if I was the “real” mother of her mom, whom I adopted as an infant, I found a way to help her explore her many real connections, through biology, law, and love.
As a father who raised a child from birth and is now parenting older children adopted from foster care, I’ve come to see that the game and pieces may, indeed, be the same, but you have to play in an entirely different way.
"My child is approaching an age where I am thinking about sending her to culture camp. Is this something I should pursue or not?" Our panel of adult adoptees responds.
“We just found out that we won’t be able to adopt the child we’ve been fostering. How do we tell the child, and explain to our older daughter?”
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Having children was something that other people did. But giving birth has given me a sense of connection I never felt before.
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