“I need help dealing with unsupportive relatives who seem to think ‘adoption’ is a dirty word. How can I talk with them about adoption?”
Surprised by your grade-schoolers sudden need for personal space? Don't be. It's normal.
Often, the loss of a grandparent will be your child's first experience with death. If a child is close to her grandparent, the loss will be that much harder.
As grade-school kids learn more about adoption, they begin to ask more questions. How do you respond?
When your child's classmates have questions, you can provide the answers.
Some of our kids turn into perfectionists during grade school. Is there a link to adoption?
Questions from their peers get more complicated for our teens—and their peers’ questions may reflect their own worries about adoption.
By now, you and your teen have established a firm family bond. But outsiders may not see it that way.
Your preschooler may hit you with surprising questions at the most unexpected times and places!
Watching an engaging TV series that features a relevant storyline is a fun, low-pressure way to get your child talking about adoption. Here are five shows that mostly get it right.
There's this poem I'm supposed to love. I first read it when we adopted our oldest son: Not flesh of my flesh nor bone of my bone/But still miraculously my own./Never forget, for a single minute,/You didn't grow under my heart, but in it.
For a mom who was adopted as an infant, the realization that her children look like her takes on special meaning.
The vast majority of our children have birth siblings, yet parents may wonder how to approach the topic. Adoptive parents, birth parents, and adoptees share how they talk about biological siblings, and build brother-sister bonds.
Our daughter is not a public exhibit. She deserves to be protected from questions that undermine the legitimacy of our family.
I'd expected to fit in at the adoptive parents' support group. At the first meeting, however, I found I was the only mom who'd adopted domestically, who looked like her child.
“I adopted my grandson through a kinship adoption. He’s now six and has recently begun calling me ‘Mommy’ and saying he was in my tummy. Is this OK, or do I need to reiterate that I’m his grandmother?”
When my daughter Hope started kindergarten at her progressive school here in diverse New York City, we were both taken by surprise by the persistent, direct adoption questions she faced from classmates, questions that adults would be reluctant to pose.
Michelle Johnson, 38, adopted by white parents and raised in suburban Minneapolis, recently spoke with AF about her experiences.
What we record now about our child will help him or her later in the difficult teen task of forging a positive identity.
Many of us start out thinking we are simply adding a child to our life. But for the families featured here, the immeasurable joy they found through adoption inspired them to serve needs even greater than their own.