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How to Talk About and Explain Adoption
Sample language, conversation guidelines, and other expert advice to help you explain adoption to your child, and answer questions from family, friends, and others.
“When my daughter was in her teens, we sent a letter to her birth mother via our adoption agency, but never heard back. Yesterday, I got a social media message from her birth mother’s sister, which shared sad news. How do I break this news to my daughter?”
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“Recently, my 12-year-old has been questioning whether an adoptive mother can really love her children as she would biological children. She’ll say things like, ‘You think you love us, but you would love a child you gave birth to more. How should I talk with her about this?”
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“Our son’s birth mother is now married and parenting a newborn. How should I answer if he asks why they couldn’t raise him?”
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Three adolescents share their experiences with open adoption, and how they feel about their relationships with their birth family.
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While I acknowledge that the word carries only a hint of the day's complicated meaning, to me, "Gotcha" says it all.
A mother shares that her four-year-old has said, “You’re not my mom!” when angry. Fellow parents assure her this is normal and suggest different ways to respond.