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An adoptive mother looks back on the moment she met her daughter

“Finding My Inner Mom”

For years, I felt ambivalence about becoming a parent, and worry that I wouldn’t be a “perfect” mother. In an open letter to my daughter, I look back on that moment of calm and utter clarity when we met.

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Adoption Cost and Timing in 2016-2017

Each year, Adoptive Families polls newly formed families across the country to get actual information on the cost and length of time it took them to complete their adoptions. See the results of the most recent 2016-2017 Adoption Cost & Timing Survey.

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Parents Share: “When I Knew I Was Going to Adopt”

Parents share the moment they knew in their hearts that their path to parenthood would involve adoption, whether they always knew or it came after years of trying to conceive.

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Parents Share: Our Last-Minute “Stork Drop” Adoption

We asked, did you get "the call" that you'd been selected by a birth mother after the baby was already born? Parents respond with their experiences and been-there advice.

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An adoptive mother looks back on the moment she met her daughter

“Finding My Inner Mom”

For years, I felt ambivalence about becoming a parent, and worry that I wouldn’t be a “perfect” mother. In an open letter to my daughter, I look back on that moment of calm and utter clarity when we met.

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Ecuador Adoption Fast Facts

Wondering how to adopt from Ecuador? Find statistics, prospective parent requirements, personal stories, and more resources.

Bonding

An adoptive mother looks back on the moment she met her daughter

“Finding My Inner Mom”

For years, I felt ambivalence about becoming a parent, and worry that I wouldn’t be a “perfect” mother. In an open letter to my daughter, I look back on that moment of calm and utter clarity when we met.

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An adoptive mother looks back on the moment she met her daughter

“Finding My Inner Mom”

For years, I felt ambivalence about becoming a parent, and worry that I wouldn’t be a “perfect” mother. In an open letter to my daughter, I look back on that moment of calm and utter clarity when we met.

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A dad walks in the forest with his daughter after adopting after age 50.

“Finally Father’s Day”

I became a dad at age 50, and it changed my life in ways I never could have expected. It was the greatest gift.

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ADVICE & SUPPORT

Foster Adoption

The Littlefield foster family – author Deirdre with her husband and two sons

“What Being a Foster Family Has Taught My Children”

Amazingly, the number one question we’re asked about being a foster family is: “Are you afraid of what they'll teach your children?” So, what have my kids learned? To start—to be open, generous, non-judgmental, thankful for their warm home….

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Domestic

parent holding newborn baby's hand in the hospital after a "stork drop" last-minute adoption placement

Parents Share: Our Last-Minute “Stork Drop” Adoption

We asked, did you get "the call" that you'd been selected by a birth mother after the baby was already born? Parents respond with their experiences and been-there advice.

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A woman plays with her child after sharing her adoption decision with her family

Share Your Story: Announcing Your Decision to Adopt

We polled our newsletter subscribers, "How did you tell your extended family about your decision to adopt?" Here's what some of you said.

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Online Adoption Resources for Prospective Parents

Our recommendations for online adoption resources — from government sites to attorney directories — selected by the editors of Adoptive Families magazine.

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International

An adoptive mother looks back on the moment she met her daughter

“Finding My Inner Mom”

For years, I felt ambivalence about becoming a parent, and worry that I wouldn’t be a “perfect” mother. In an open letter to my daughter, I look back on that moment of calm and utter clarity when we met.

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The Opher Shapiro family

“Our Journey to China to Adopt Our Daughter”

We left our house this morning a family of three, but the next time we walk through our front door, it will be as a family of four.

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“Visiting Our Daughter’s Russian Orphanage”

Three years after her adoption, we returned to our daughter's Russian orphanage to visit her caregivers and friends there.

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Talking

As in the movie Sliding Doors, adoptees grow up imagining alternate realities

“Sliding Doors”

We all imagine different ways our lives could have played out. For adoptees, these fantasies may seem particularly compelling: ‘What would my life have been like if I had not been adopted?’

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Capturing Your Child’s Journey Through Life

Four families share how they fit making scrapbooks and lifebooks into their busy lives after adopting.

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Four of author Billy Cuchens's children through transracial adoption

“I Can Still Be Shocked” – Encountering Ignorance About Adoption and Race

Fifteen years into parenting in a transracial family, I thought I had heard it all—with appropriate comebacks at the ready—until an interaction with a racist (former) boss left me simply dumbfounded.

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Four of author Billy Cuchens's children through transracial adoption

“I Can Still Be Shocked” – Encountering Ignorance About Adoption and Race

Fifteen years into parenting in a transracial family, I thought I had heard it all—with appropriate comebacks at the ready—until an interaction with a racist (former) boss left me simply dumbfounded.

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“Almost Famous”

The day we became a transracial adoptive family was the day we lost our anonymity in our community. We’ve learned to handle the extra attention with some advance prep before going public, some choice words, and some perspective.

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An Overview of Heritage Travel

Heritage travel can help your child understand her birth culture, and her origin story. Plan a trip that will work for your family by answering these questions.

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Four of author Billy Cuchens's children through transracial adoption

“I Can Still Be Shocked” – Encountering Ignorance About Adoption and Race

Fifteen years into parenting in a transracial family, I thought I had heard it all—with appropriate comebacks at the ready—until an interaction with a racist (former) boss left me simply dumbfounded.

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Health & Development

author Rosemary Shulman with her son adopted from foster care as a toddler, years after his belated FASD diagnosis

“I Needed a Different Parenting Handbook…” – Parenting Children with FASD

Belated diagnoses of Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD) changed the way this mom parented her children, and the way she savored their successes. Join with her as she recounts some of their small victories and hard-won life lessons from their 20-year journey.

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Family Dynamics

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Parents Share: How Is Parenting After Adoption Different?

We asked parents to "name one way in which adoptive parenting differs from parenting a biological child." From maintaining an open adoption to understanding trauma parenting to feeling free to agree wholeheartedly with compliments about your child's looks, here's what readers shared.

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School

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Parents Share: What My Child’s Friends Want to Know About Adoption

Parents share the questions their children have been asked by friends and classmates over the years, from being in an orphanage to whether they know their "real" parents.

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Peers & Friendships

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Hosting Productive Play Dates

A step-by-step plan to help adoptive parents plan successful outings for children and their friends.

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Modern Families

Adoptive Families' 2018 Cover Photo Contest Grand-Prize Winner Sadie Jane

2018 Cover Photo Contest Winners

Congratulations to the winners of the 2018 Adoptive Families Cover Photo Contest! See the nine photos selected from 1,000 entries, and read stories from the proud parents.

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Holidays & Celebrations

Readers share the holiday gifts they exchange with their children's birth families, including homemade ornaments, photos, and other ideas.

Parent-to-Parent: Holiday Gifts for Your Child’s Birth Family

We asked our readers: If you'll be giving your child's birth parents a gift this holiday season, what is it and how will you give it to them? Read the answers from adoptive parents.

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