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The hospital adoption process should be fairly straightforward

Adoption Law: At the Hospital

An adoption attorney explains the legal steps surrounding your child's birth when you adopt domestically.

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Your Adoption Budget Checklists

All adoptions, wherever from and via whatever method, include a home study, the process where a social worker checks that you are eligible to adopt. After that, budget items vary.

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One mother shares her experience after deciding to adopt internationally.

“We Wanted to Adopt White Children”

I chose our route because I didn't feel comfortable adopting outside our race. Six bittersweet years of motherhood have taught me to look beyond appearances.

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The hospital adoption process should be fairly straightforward

Adoption Law: At the Hospital

An adoption attorney explains the legal steps surrounding your child's birth when you adopt domestically.

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Register for the Parenting the Hurt Child Webinar with Regina Kupecky on 3/9/16

Parenting the Hurt Child Webinar on 3/9

Register now for the webinar “Parenting the Hurt Child,” on 3/9/16. Regina M. Kupecky, LSW, will guide parents in understanding a newly adopted older child’s behavior and discuss what will work (and what to avoid) to help him heal and attach.

Fear of Developmental Delays

“Bringing Him Home”

Adoption is opening your heart to a baby, then waiting six months to meet him. Adoption is worrying about who rocks him at night, then hoping someone just comes when he cries. Adoption is squeezing your eyes and ears shut when people tell you what happens in Eastern European institutions.

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Bonding

A judge will be there at the finalization of adoption

What to Expect During Your Adoption Finalization

Adoption can't be finalized until after marathon of post-placement visits and termination of parental rights. Here's what to expect before, during, and after the hearing.

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Sleep Routines for Adoptive Children

Raising a Sound Sleeper

When we, as new parents or parents-to-be, think about our children sleeping, we all dream of a happy, peaceful child sleeping soundly while we’re in the other room getting a full night’s rest ourselves. This is rarely the reality, however—at least at the beginning of parenthood. How do we make that dream a reality?

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A judge will be there at the finalization of adoption

What to Expect During Your Adoption Finalization

Adoption can't be finalized until after marathon of post-placement visits and termination of parental rights. Here's what to expect before, during, and after the hearing.

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Supporting Adoptive Parents: A How-To Guide

“Here’s How You Can Support Us”

We may tell you that we are OK when we’re really falling apart. We’re worried that, if we are honest about how difficult parenting through the transition is, you won’t understand and that you’ll think we’re nuts.

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Supporting Adoptive Parents: A How-To Guide

“Here’s How You Can Support Us”

We may tell you that we are OK when we’re really falling apart. We’re worried that, if we are honest about how difficult parenting through the transition is, you won’t understand and that you’ll think we’re nuts.

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ADVICE & SUPPORT

Foster Adoption

Register for the Parenting the Hurt Child Webinar with Regina Kupecky on 3/9/16

Parenting the Hurt Child Webinar on 3/9

Register now for the webinar “Parenting the Hurt Child,” on 3/9/16. Regina M. Kupecky, LSW, will guide parents in understanding a newly adopted older child’s behavior and discuss what will work (and what to avoid) to help him heal and attach.

Nia Vardalos shares an excerpt from her story, Instant Mom.

“Instant Mom”

Nia Vardalos describes her first meeting with the preschooler she adopted from U.S. foster care.

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Domestic

The hospital adoption process should be fairly straightforward

Adoption Law: At the Hospital

An adoption attorney explains the legal steps surrounding your child's birth when you adopt domestically.

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State Adoption Law Updates, Winter 2016

State adoption laws are always changing. Read up on the latest update.

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International

Fear of Developmental Delays

“Bringing Him Home”

Adoption is opening your heart to a baby, then waiting six months to meet him. Adoption is worrying about who rocks him at night, then hoping someone just comes when he cries. Adoption is squeezing your eyes and ears shut when people tell you what happens in Eastern European institutions.

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Declining an adoption referral is a difficult choice for adoptive parents

“Our Agonizing Decision to Decline a Referral”

We thought accepting a referral would be the easy part. It wasn’t.

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Talking

Teaching Racial Awareness to Children

To the White Parents of My Black Son’s Friends

But here’s the thing—as much as we can try to protect him and teach him to protect himself, there may come a time when your child will be involved. As the parents of the white friend of my black son, I need you to be talking to your child about racism.

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Adoption expert Lois Melina on talking with adopted children about unknown birth family information

Talking Matters

If you look like your child, you may be spared inquisitive glances or nosy questions about adoption from strangers. But that doesn't mean you don't have to discuss the topic.

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Teaching Racial Awareness to Children

To the White Parents of My Black Son’s Friends

But here’s the thing—as much as we can try to protect him and teach him to protect himself, there may come a time when your child will be involved. As the parents of the white friend of my black son, I need you to be talking to your child about racism.

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A mother explaining her teen's adoption story

Answering Tough Questions

As your teen's thinking becomes more sophisticated, she'll want to know more about her adoption.

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Transracial

Teaching Racial Awareness to Children

To the White Parents of My Black Son’s Friends

But here’s the thing—as much as we can try to protect him and teach him to protect himself, there may come a time when your child will be involved. As the parents of the white friend of my black son, I need you to be talking to your child about racism.

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Melissa and Maya Ludtke at the Xiaxi market in 2004, the trip that inspired Touching Home in China

Two Adoptees on Going “Home” to China, Again

After a birth country visit to China that was too much, too soon for my seven-year-old daughter, she and a friend returned on their own terms as teens. The trip helped them imagine what their lives might have been and explore their Chinese-American identities.

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Health & Development

Jillian Lauren with her son, Tariku.

[BOOK EXCERPT] Everything You Ever Wanted

In this excerpt from her candid, hilarious, inspiring adoption memoir, Jillian Lauren explains how she and her husband addressed their son's trauma and special needs and turned things around for him at home and at school.

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Family Dynamics

Adoption expert Lois Melina on talking with adopted children about unknown birth family information

The Sibling Connection

Sure, they bicker, they fight, they tease each other mercilessly. But they’re also creating vital relationships that will last a lifetime.

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School

Jillian Lauren with her son, Tariku.

[BOOK EXCERPT] Everything You Ever Wanted

In this excerpt from her candid, hilarious, inspiring adoption memoir, Jillian Lauren explains how she and her husband addressed their son's trauma and special needs and turned things around for him at home and at school.

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Peers & Friendships

Modern Families

One child brought through adoptive motherhood, one through biological motherhood

“True Love, Times Two”

I used to wonder whether my love for my son would be more intense if I'd given birth to him. Having a biological child validated the depth of my feelings the first time around.

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