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The Opher Shapiro family

“Our Journey to China to Adopt Our Daughter”

We left our house this morning a family of three, but the next time we walk through our front door, it will be as a family of four.

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2016-2017 Adoption Cost & Timing Survey Results represented by piggy bank, calculator, and calendar

Adoption Cost and Timing in 2016-2017

Each year, Adoptive Families polls newly formed families across the country to get actual information on the cost and length of time it took them to complete their adoptions. See the results of the most recent 2016-2017 Adoption Cost & Timing Survey.

A man holds his baby after adopting a child of a different race.

Are You Considering Transracial Adoption?

If your family is thinking about adopting a child of a different race, spend some time answering these six questions to help determine if it's right for you.

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A woman plays with her child after sharing her adoption decision with her family

Share Your Story: Announcing Your Decision to Adopt

We polled our newsletter subscribers, "How did you tell your extended family about your decision to adopt?" Here's what some of you said.

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A Helping Hand Through the Foster Adoption Process

Have you considered growing your family through adoption from U.S. foster care, but don’t know where to begin? Contact the experts at AdoptUSKids for personalized guidance and the reassurance that “you don’t have to be perfect to be a perfect parent.”

The Opher Shapiro family

“Our Journey to China to Adopt Our Daughter”

We left our house this morning a family of three, but the next time we walk through our front door, it will be as a family of four.

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ecuador adoption

Ecuador Adoption Fast Facts

Wondering how to adopt from Ecuador? Find statistics, prospective parent requirements, personal stories, and more resources.

Bonding

AF Interviews Melissa Fay Green

Interview with Melissa Fay Green

The adoptive mom and critically acclaimed author talks about her adoption of two brothers from Ethiopia, the AIDS crisis in Africa, and Haregewoin Teferra, the foster mother at the center of her book, There Is No Me Without You: One Woman's Odyssey to Rescue Her Country's Children.

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A Mother's Day Card reminds a mom of the dichotomy of adoptive motherhood and her children's birth mother

“Motherhood, Cleaved.”

My love for my youngest child, who was born to me, takes a different timbre from my love for my twins through adoption. Accepting this helps me understand the inimitable bond they share with their birth mother, and the ache she must feel.

A Mother's Day Card reminds a mom of the dichotomy of adoptive motherhood and her children's birth mother

“Motherhood, Cleaved.”

My love for my youngest child, who was born to me, takes a different timbre from my love for my twins through adoption. Accepting this helps me understand the inimitable bond they share with their birth mother, and the ache she must feel.

AF Interviews Melissa Fay Green

Interview with Melissa Fay Green

The adoptive mom and critically acclaimed author talks about her adoption of two brothers from Ethiopia, the AIDS crisis in Africa, and Haregewoin Teferra, the foster mother at the center of her book, There Is No Me Without You: One Woman's Odyssey to Rescue Her Country's Children.

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ADVICE & SUPPORT

Foster Adoption

A family formed through foster adoption views a sunset

A Helping Hand Through the Foster Adoption Process

Have you considered growing your family through adoption from U.S. foster care, but don’t know where to begin? Contact the experts at AdoptUSKids for personalized guidance and the reassurance that “you don’t have to be perfect to be a perfect parent.”

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Online Adoption Resources for Prospective Parents

Our recommendations for online adoption resources — from government sites to attorney directories — selected by the editors of Adoptive Families magazine.

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Domestic

A woman plays with her child after sharing her adoption decision with her family

Share Your Story: Announcing Your Decision to Adopt

We polled our newsletter subscribers, "How did you tell your extended family about your decision to adopt?" Here's what some of you said.

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Female hands, writing blogs on adoption or infertility

Online Adoption Resources for Prospective Parents

Our recommendations for online adoption resources — from government sites to attorney directories — selected by the editors of Adoptive Families magazine.

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Parent-to-Parent: My Best Domestic Adoption Travel Advice

If you traveled domestically to adopt, what's one piece of advice you can give others as they prepare to do the same? See parents' answers.

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International

The Opher Shapiro family

“Our Journey to China to Adopt Our Daughter”

We left our house this morning a family of three, but the next time we walk through our front door, it will be as a family of four.

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“Visiting Our Daughter’s Russian Orphanage”

Three years after her adoption, we returned to our daughter's Russian orphanage to visit her caregivers and friends there.

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Talking

A mom answers her kids questions about adoption

“An Adoption Game Show”

Conversations about adoption are rarely planned, so parents have to be ready with details at a moment's notice. On a recent evening with my kids, I experienced that times three.

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A phone call cemented a mother and daughter bond.

“This Is For Real”

An unexpected emergency tests the strength of a mother-daughter bond.

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Creating a Personal History for Your Adopted Child

Creating a History for Your Teen During Infancy

What we record now about our child will help him or her later in the difficult teen task of forging a positive identity.

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A mom answers her kids questions about adoption

“An Adoption Game Show”

Conversations about adoption are rarely planned, so parents have to be ready with details at a moment's notice. On a recent evening with my kids, I experienced that times three.

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“How We’re Different, and How We’re The Same”

When talk turns to family traits—who got grandma's curly hair or daddy's big blue eyes—how does our child find her place in the conversation?

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The Talk: Revealing the Realities of Racism to My African-American Child

Growing up in Trinidad, I didn’t use the word black to describe myself. But as the mother of two black children in the U.S., I walk the fine line of raising them to believe they are capable and worthy while understanding that everyone in this country has been taught to discount their value.

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Transracial

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AF’s, Complete Guide to Heritage Travel

Heritage trips help children discover their past — and inspire who they'll become. Help your child prepare for the journey with these expert-tested tips.

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A family looks at a map, symbolism for taking a heritage tour.

AF’s, Complete Guide to Heritage Travel

Heritage trips help children discover their past — and inspire who they'll become. Help your child prepare for the journey with these expert-tested tips.

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A woman embraces three children on a heritage travel trip to India

Journeys of Discovery

A homeland trip can help kids connect "where I come from" to "where I'm going." Having traveled with thousands of adoptive families, I'm delighted to share my thoughts on the impact of homeland travel on identity formation.

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Family Dynamics

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Just Say “Yes” to Positive Parenting

If you’re parenting an oppositional child or teen, you probably say “no” a lot. You may say it so often that it’s become your default response, or you may be stuck in the perception that “no” is the healthier option. How can you bring positivity back into your parent-child relationship?

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School

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“Overcoming All Odds”

Although we knew our South American-born son would face challenges growing up in a predominantly white middle class suburb, we were totally unprepared for what was to come.

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Peers & Friendships

A transracially adopted boy joking with a friend in class

“But How Did He Know About My Mama?”

When my transracially adopted son was teased about adoption at school, he came home upset—and also bewildered about how his friend could have known. When I heard this (and when it came out that he wasn't wholly innocent in the exchange), was it wrong that my reaction turned from anger to laughter?

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Modern Families

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“Among Friends”

When it comes to socializing, my gregarious daughter has taught me a thing or two.

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Holidays & Celebrations

Readers share the holiday gifts they exchange with their children's birth families, including homemade ornaments, photos, and other ideas.

Parent-to-Parent: Holiday Gifts for Your Child’s Birth Family

We asked our readers: If you'll be giving your child's birth parents a gift this holiday season, what is it and how will you give it to them? Read the answers from adoptive parents.

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