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Helping a child adopted at age nine come to terms with a lack of any baby pictures

“A Past Without Pictures”

My daughter was eight years old in the referral photo we received during the international adoption process. That's the oldest photo she will ever have of herself.

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Special needs adoption can help children find loving homes

Is Special Needs Adoption Right for Your Family?

Why adopt a child with medical special needs? The answers will surprise you and touch your soul.

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Children adopted via domestic adoption are healthy and happy

The Truth About Domestic Adoption

Domestic adoption in the United States has undergone a seismic shift in the last 30 years. How long will it take for popular perceptions to catch up with the new, healthier reality?

Bonding through routines and rituals

Establishing a Routine

When it comes to easing your baby's transition to your home, consistency is key.

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Helping a child adopted at age nine come to terms with a lack of any baby pictures

“A Past Without Pictures”

My daughter was eight years old in the referral photo we received during the international adoption process. That's the oldest photo she will ever have of herself.

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Bonding

Adopting a toddler may be right for your family

Adopting a Toddler

Straddling the line between infancy and autonomy, toddlers experience adoption in unique ways. Here's what you need to know to face the challenge.

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Interview with Deborah D. Gray about bonding and attachment.

Attachment Answers

Adoptive Families sat down for a Q&A with attachment guru Deborah Gray. When will a parent know a bond is in place? How can working parents solidify their connection with a newly adopted child? We asked these questions and more.

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In this personal essay, one mother explains why "Gotcha Day" can be offensive for adoptees.

“Getting Rid of ‘Gotcha Day’”

What do you call the day your adoptive child came home? In this personal essay, one mother explains why "Gotcha Day" can be offensive for some adoptees.

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adopt out of birth order

The Decision to Adopt Out of Birth Order

Your baby has grown into a delightful, adventuresome preschooler, or perhaps your youngest child is about to enter kindergarten. Life has eased up a bit, and you're thinking of expanding your family. But, rather than choosing to adopt an infant, you're considering an older child. Does it make sense to adopt out of birth order (in this case, a child older than your preschooler)? And will your new addition wreak havoc on your existing family dynamics?

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Adopting a toddler may be right for your family

Adopting a Toddler

Straddling the line between infancy and autonomy, toddlers experience adoption in unique ways. Here's what you need to know to face the challenge.

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ADVICE & SUPPORT

Foster Adoption

Bonding through routines and rituals

Establishing a Routine

When it comes to easing your baby's transition to your home, consistency is key.

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A family with African American children

“Teaching My Children That Black Is Beautiful”

I tell my African-American children that they are smart and beautiful because I know that the world may tell them otherwise.

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average cost of a us adoption

Foster Adoption Cost Breakdown

For an overview of the average cost of a U.S. foster adoption, see the categories below. Don't forget that the cost of adoption will be offset by the federal adoption tax credit (unless your income exceeds federal limitations) so make sure to keep detailed records of fees and payments during your adoption process.

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Domestic

Children adopted via domestic adoption are healthy and happy

The Truth About Domestic Adoption

Domestic adoption in the United States has undergone a seismic shift in the last 30 years. How long will it take for popular perceptions to catch up with the new, healthier reality?

One child brought through adoptive motherhood, one through biological motherhood

“True Love, Times Two”

I used to wonder whether my love for my son would be more intense if I'd given birth to him. Having a biological child validated the depth of my feelings the first time around.

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Frank was nourished through adoptive breastfeeding

“How I Was (Sort of) Able to Breastfeed”

If breastfeeding had been easy in the past, adoptive breastfeeding couldn't be so different, or less rewarding, could it? More or less.

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International

Helping a child adopted at age nine come to terms with a lack of any baby pictures

“A Past Without Pictures”

My daughter was eight years old in the referral photo we received during the international adoption process. That's the oldest photo she will ever have of herself.

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Bonding through routines and rituals

Establishing a Routine

When it comes to easing your baby's transition to your home, consistency is key.

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Learn about the adoption transition diet for your child.

The Adoption Transition Diet

Dana E. Johnson, M.D., Ph.D., on introducing new foods and addressing feeding challenges in a newly adopted child.

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Talking

Talking About Feelings

Helping Your Child Who’s In a Funk

When Janice and Paul's daughter turned 7, they breathed a sigh of relief. Last year Emily's favorite word was "no," and she talked back constantly. Alas, now she seemed worried and sad. She felt that no one liked her at school, that the other kids thought she was weird.

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Creating an adoption lifebook can help your child understand her story.

Adoption Scrapbooks Made Easy

Tips for capturing the journey leading up to your child's adoption, and the precious moments after, in scrapbook your family will cherish forever.

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Talking About Feelings

Helping Your Child Who’s In a Funk

When Janice and Paul's daughter turned 7, they breathed a sigh of relief. Last year Emily's favorite word was "no," and she talked back constantly. Alas, now she seemed worried and sad. She felt that no one liked her at school, that the other kids thought she was weird.

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Prepare your preteen for some insensitive comments about adoption

It’s All Relative!

Nothing brings out a tween's awkward side like a holiday family gathering. What can you do to help?

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Kids need to piece together their adoption stories

Sharing Difficult Details with Your Child

Experts offer talking tips and sample language for discussing neglect, abuse, abandonment, and other painful parts of your child's adoption story.

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Transracial

Adoption expert Lois Melina on talking with adopted children about unknown birth family information

The Other Side of Privilege

If we're white, we experience many benefits of unearned status because we're "the norm." But adoptive families are not considered the norm. Now what?

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Adoption Experts answer your questions.

Ask AF: How Do We Find Role Models Who Share Our Child’s Race?

We're white and our son is black. I'm ashamed to admit that we do not have any black relatives or friends. Will it seem offensive and shallow if I try to befriend someone simply because they are black?

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Support your child's ethnic heritage

When Children Deny Their Heritage

A strong connection to role models and to others who share their ethnic background is as important now as ever.

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Adoption expert Lois Melina on talking with adopted children about unknown birth family information

The Other Side of Privilege

If we're white, we experience many benefits of unearned status because we're "the norm." But adoptive families are not considered the norm. Now what?

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Health & Development

Father reading with his daughter to ward off language impairment

Listen Up!

Does your preschooler have a speech or language delay? Here's how to find out — and get help.

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Family Dynamics

A cartoon of a perfect family

“Redefining Perfect”

After giving birth to a boy and a girl, I had what other people defined as a "million dollar family." Adoption only enhanced our lives, not make it less perfect.

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School

Peers & Friendships

Modern Families

Holidays & Celebrations

Individuation in Adopted Preteens

Mortifying Moms

You used to be the coolest mom on the block–at least in the mind of your kid. Now she rolls her eyes at everything you do. What's up?

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