“I recently found out that my teen is friends with his birth mother on Facebook. I feel badly that I found this out by ‘snooping,’ but I am also shocked and upset that she didn’t try to contact us or the adoption agency first. What should we do?”
Birth Family Search & Reunion Stories and Advice
Adult adoptees, adoptive parents, and experts on the emotional process of birth parent search and reunion in adoption.
Part of how teens form identity is by finding ways they are alike and different from their family. They may want to search for their genetic relatives to figuring out who they are and how to emotionally put pieces in place.
Faced with a young daughter's despair, a mother realizes her child must reconnect with the past.
A New Jersey law signed in 2014 went into effect on January 1, 2017, and adoptees in that state may now access their original birth certificates and other adoption records.
This powerful new film, based on a true story, offers a sensitive and responsible portrayal of adoption. Highly recommended for teens and adoptive parents!
When Elizabeth was young, closed adoption was comfortable. But my outlook changed the day my teenage daughter said, "I want to find them."
Two adult adoptees are working on the first edition of a Chinese Birth Parent Search Manual, to be released at the end of 2016.
With her sister’s permission, the novelist wrote a fictionalized account of her experiences leading up to the adoption plan.
A Korean adult adoptee shares what motivated her to search for her birth mother—and the feelings she grappled with when she was unable to find her.
Got a Web-savvy teen on your hands? Here's how to set safety guidelines for online birth family contact.
The first study on this topic provides fascinating insights about adoptees’ and parents’ motivations to search, search methods used, the initial reunion, and ongoing contact.
Twenty-six years after placing my son for adoption, we found each other. That’s when I started learning—the hard way—how to be a mom.
After a lifetime of wondering who? and why?, an adoptee set out to find some answers. The award-winning documentary that follows her birth family search has already sparked thousands of dialogues.
My daughter, Rubie, has the kind of life I'd dreamed of for her, and is where she belongs. I only wish I had known that sooner.
As genetic testing makes its way into the adoption world, our families discover its promise — and its limitations.
Kay Ann Johnson spent more than 20 years listening to the anguished accounts of Chinese people who relinquished, adopted, and hid out-of-plan or over quota children in the face of the country’s One-Child Policy. In China’s Hidden Children, she shares their stories.
I went to China to find the birth mother who left me on a street corner. Instead, I became the focus of a nation’s buried pain.
My 11-year-old son has been saying he’d like to meet his birth family.
When kids find out they have birth siblings, they’re usually interested in meeting. Here’s how parents can help facilitate the relationship.
We made the trip, unsure whether we would even find Marina's orphanage, and ended up finding the answers to her deepest questions.by Janice Pearse