When my transracially adopted son was teased about adoption at school, he came home upset—and also bewildered about how his friend could have known. When I heard this (and when it came out that he wasn't wholly innocent in the exchange), was it wrong that my reaction turned from anger to laughter?
Helping Your Adopted Child Navigate Friendships and Peers
Your child may face questions about adoption from classmates, and grapple with “feeling different,” as he or she grows. Find advice from experts on helping your child navigate friendships, nosy peers, and challenges like bullying or exclusion.
An adolescent's peers may tell you something about their inner life.
Avoid sit down lectures and look for teachable moments to get your teen to open up.
If your child is the giver or receiver of unkind behavior, read on.
With such a spectrum of opinions about adoption, it’s hard to know if we talk about it too much, or not enough, and in the right way. But watching my son navigate adoption comments at school reassured me of his comfort with it.
Some children seem to know the rules naturally, others need a little help.
A family move can be hard for any child.
Adoptive parents share whether their children have friends who are also adoptees and, if so, how the children met.
“My daughter, who was adopted internationally, has been saying she wishes she got to see her birth mother, like her close friend who has a very open adoption. What can I say to her?”
“After my daughter told classmates that she was adopted, they responded that they ‘feel sorry’ for her. What can I do to help?”
A parent reaches out for help after taunting at school left her daughter feeling shaken to the core and that she doesn’t belong anywhere. An adult adoptee and transracial adoption expert offers advice.
"Last week, my teenage son told me that he was tired of having to explain himself wherever he goes. Why is this happening, and how can I help him?"
Your preteen just wants to be cool. But how can he, when he's "different"?
Sometimes teens feel left out of the in crowd. Here's how to help.
My middle schoolers often get teased about the way they look or the fact that they were adopted. What can they say to the teasers?
Expert tips for adoptive parents to help your child make and maintain peer relationships.
An adoption support group can provide a safe and comfortable venue for your teen to explore adoption and his larger identity in a new, more complex way.
Parents cannot prevent their child from experiencing exclusion or feeling "different" from time to time. You can, however, lessen the negative effects of this common occurrence during the preteen years.
Answers to your parenting questions.
Excerpt from Beneath the Mask: Understanding Adopted Teens, by Debbie Riley.