Although we knew our South American-born son would face challenges growing up in a predominantly white middle class suburb, we were totally unprepared for what was to come.
Adoption at School: Questions from Peers, the Family Tree, and More
Expert advice and personal stories about adoption at school—from talking with the teacher about adoption to preparing your child to answer questions from classmates to adapting the family tree and other sticky assignments.
"Going to college provides the time and distance for young adult adoptees to experiment with and sort out their own interests and self-expectations."
When it comes to adoption, teachers can be part of the solution. The key is to explain it to students in age-appropriate ways.
“We have always tried to make sure our internationally adopted son feels proud of his heritage. This year, when the class was writing about Thanksgiving, he asked if he could skip the assignment because people from his birth country do not celebrate Thanksgiving. I know I need to talk to him, but I’m not sure where to start.”
We asked our readers: How did you decide whether to introduce the topic of adoption at your child's school? What actions did you take, if any, to start explaining adoption to classmates or teachers? What advice do you have for other parents about how to best interact with your child's teachers?
As parents, how can you help make sure that your child and all the students at her school feel included and supported? Educate teachers about the five As!
Do you tell the teacher that your child was adopted at the start of a new school year? See parents' answers.
Avoid sit down lectures and look for teachable moments to get your teen to open up.
The family tree project can be a particularly tricky one for kids who are adopted. Here's how one family tackled the assignment.
Sometimes school brings tough situations, like teasing, tricky assignments, and nosy questions. When should kids handle things on their own, and when should a parent step in?
How can you help your child answer adoption questions with confidence—and handle any queries that come your way?
If your child is the giver or receiver of unkind behavior, read on.
As your child progresses through elementary school, she should take more responsibility for handling tricky assignments. Here's how to hand off the reins.
The family tree assignment is a perfect opportunity to answer your child's questions about adoption.
Picky eating is common in children—and as a parent, it’s probably driving you crazy. Here, simple strategies (like using a cookie cutter!) help make sure your child gets enough to eat.
Families share their experiences with school and adoption issues.
Some teens are ready to go away to school and hit the books. Others may need different options.
Some of our kids turn into perfectionists during grade school. Is there a link to adoption?
Questions from their peers get more complicated for our teens—and their peers' questions may reflect their own worries about adoption.
As I weighed diversity, academics, and other factors when choosing schools for my transracially adopted children, I perpetually second-guessed myself. But now that my kids are teens, I’m ready to trust their decisions.