It's important to look for those natural, easy times when personal, tender issues can be touched upon.
Talking About Adoption with Children
Children who joined their families through adoption need to know how adoption works, to feel free to ask questions (and get honest answers), and to learn any details you know about their birth families. Find talking tips below.
The Internet requires a cautious approach when teens are looking for answers about adoption.
As your teen heads toward adulthood, she'll strive to discover who she is.
“I just discovered that my daughter’s birth mother died. My daughter is a preteen and rarely asks about her birth parents. Should I tell her this now, or wait? And, if so, how do I bring it up?”
How can you help your child answer adoption questions with confidence—and handle any queries that come your way?
As your child progresses through elementary school, she should take more responsibility for handling tricky assignments. Here's how to hand off the reins.
The family tree assignment is a perfect opportunity to answer your child's questions about adoption.
How to help your middle schooler cope with curious peers.
Films with adoption or foster care storylines, or with themes of separation, identity, or belonging, can spark tough, must-have conversations with your children. Ready to start watching—and talking? Start with one of these recommendations.
With such a spectrum of opinions about adoption, it’s hard to know if we talk about it too much, or not enough, and in the right way. But watching my son navigate adoption comments at school reassured me of his comfort with it.
“My six-year-old has been asking a lot of new questions about adoption and his birth mother. He’s also told us that he loves her more than he loves us. How should we respond?”
As a teen, your child still needs and wants you to be a strong parent—not in a controlling fashion, but as a reliable authority in his or her life. Read on for 10 ways to establish yourself in this role.
“After years of seeming OK about being adopted, my teenage daughter has become sad and angry about it recently. How can I help her deal with her new emotions?”
When children enter a family as older children or teens, or even when older children who are adopted move from one school setting to another, some of the ordinary issues of school life can become complicated for them.
"Adopted Teen Arrested," the newspaper headline reads (never "Birth Teen Arrested"). Is this just another example of sensationalism by the media or do adopted teens get into more trouble than their non-adopted peers?
Surprised by your grade-schoolers sudden need for personal space? Don't be. It's normal.
As grade-school kids learn more about adoption, they begin to ask more questions. How do you respond?
When your child's classmates have questions, you can provide the answers.
Some of our kids turn into perfectionists during grade school. Is there a link to adoption?
Questions from their peers get more complicated for our teens—and their peers' questions may reflect their own worries about adoption.