Between the ages of six and eight, children begin to ask more sophisticated questions about adoption. Here are some ways to respond.
Talking About Adoption with Children
Children who joined their families through adoption need to know how adoption works, to feel free to ask questions (and get honest answers), and to learn any details you know about their birth families. Find talking tips below.
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