As a teen, your child still needs and wants you to be a strong parent—not in a controlling fashion, but as a reliable authority in his or her life. Read on for 10 ways to establish yourself in this role.
“After years of seeming OK about being adopted, my teenage daughter has become sad and angry about it recently. How can I help her deal with her new emotions?”
When children enter a family as older children or teens, or even when older children who are adopted move from one school setting to another, some of the ordinary issues of school life can become complicated for them.
"Adopted Teen Arrested," the newspaper headline reads (never "Birth Teen Arrested"). Is this just another example of sensationalism by the media or do adopted teens get into more trouble than their non-adopted peers?
Surprised by your grade-schoolers sudden need for personal space? Don't be. It's normal.
As grade-school kids learn more about adoption, they begin to ask more questions. How do you respond?
When your child's classmates have questions, you can provide the answers.
Some of our kids turn into perfectionists during grade school. Is there a link to adoption?
Questions from their peers get more complicated for our teens—and their peers' questions may reflect their own worries about adoption.
By now, you and your teen have established a firm family bond. But outsiders may not see it that way.
Your preschooler may hit you with surprising questions at the most unexpected times and places!
Watching an engaging TV series that features a relevant storyline is a fun, low-pressure way to get your child talking about adoption. Here are five shows that mostly get it right.
The vast majority of our children have birth siblings, yet parents may wonder how to approach the topic. Adoptive parents, birth parents, and adoptees share how they talk about biological siblings, and build brother-sister bonds.
“I adopted my grandson through a kinship adoption. He’s now six and has recently begun calling me ‘Mommy’ and saying he was in my tummy. Is this OK, or do I need to reiterate that I’m his grandmother?”
“My daughter, who was adopted internationally, has been saying she wishes she got to see her birth mother, like her close friend who has a very open adoption. What can I say to her?”
“After my daughter told classmates that she was adopted, they responded that they ‘feel sorry’ for her. What can I do to help?”
After a late-summer day at the beach led to wistful new questions, this mom learned that talking about adoption with her child isn't always straightforward.
My daughter came to me at nine years old, so neither of us knows what she looked like as a baby, but walking these aisles is a way for us to recreate what we both lost.
“How do we disclose a lifelong medical condition to our child, and talk with her about lacking any information about her birth parents?”
As my daughter grows up, a typical, American kid, we are free to imagine only happy endings for the family she left behind.