"At what age should we start letting our daughter take the lead in birth parent contact? I know that my daughter will be able to call her birth mom freely when she gets her own cellphone, so how do we step back responsibly?"
Once, I grieved the loss of a biological child. Nineteen years later, as I watch my son leap and soar (literally) into adulthood, I am at peace with my role of nurturing the many gifts built into his nature.
After adopting my children from foster care, we eased into contact with their birth mother. She and I—a conservative, suburban mom—couldn’t be more different, and I’m glad that’s the case. The kids have a special relationship with her that they can’t have with me.
Before the moody teen years, pre-adolescence can present its own challenges for parents. How should you respond to tweens’ questions about adoption or initiate conversation with a preteen who doesn’t seem eager to talk?
As preteens strive to define themselves, they must work adoption into the story.
By tuning in to what children understand about adoption at different ages, our talks become richer, more intimate, and ultimately more effective.
"Mom, just drop us off at the corner!"
Families that expand their worlds to incorporate all kinds of cultures help their children develop strong racial identities.
Battles over homework can disrupt family life any evening of the school week. To lessen the trauma, parents frequently step in to help and occasionally step over the line. We asked Anita Pollic, a fourth grade teacher at Lebanon Christian School in Lebanon, Ohio, about this important topic.
After adopting older children, these parents found that maintaining a family photo album was a useful tool to encourage bonding.
It can be a challenge to tear tweens away from their screens for some good old fashioned family bonding—until you try one of these activities!
Finding ways to "give back" as a family can be fun—and rewarding—for 'tweens and parents alike.
Overindulging our children works to their detriment. Learn whyand howto set limits for your preteen.
Each of your children has his own talents and abilities. How do you play fair?
How our children feel about a separation, and how we can help them cope.
Between the ages of nine and 12, children register the meaning of adoption–and this can bring harder questions and more complex emotions. AF takes a look at what's going on in the minds of preteens, and offers advice for talking with them.
Your preteen just wants to be cool. But how can he, when he's "different"?
It's not uncommon for preteens to pretend they weren't adopted, in an effort to not be different.
Nothing brings out a tween's awkward side like a holiday family gathering. What can you do to help?
A brief review of Red Thread Sisters, an engaging novel your middle-schooler will enjoy.