“We are adopting my sister-in-law’s teenage son after fostering him for five years. What can I say to her at family gatherings, to family who still don’t get that we’ll be his legal parents—and to my son, who hears all of this?”
Navigating Sibling Rivalry & Other Family Dynamics After Adoption
Advice and stories about navigating sibling rivalry, talking with relatives who don’t “get” adoption, and other post-adoption family dynamics.
Want to strengthen your teen's sense of belonging? Make family meals mandatory.
Wish you could slow down and take the time to really connect with your kids? Here's how to slip small moments of love and closeness into the busiest days.
How did you work through sibling issues/rivalries at the time of the adoption and in subsequent years? How about instances in which one child receives more attention than another or silly questions? (Is that your "real" sister?) Our readers respond.
When I was a teen, my parents decided to grow our family by adopting from foster care. How did it feel to suddenly gain four new brothers and sisters through adoption?
“I adopted my grandson through a kinship adoption. He’s now six and has recently begun calling me ‘Mommy’ and saying he was in my tummy. Is this OK, or do I need to reiterate that I’m his grandmother?”
In many families, relationships come without exact names. While adoption highlighted this truth, it was already a given in my family—and maybe in yours, too?
When people have kids, they are often hoping their child will be just like them. In our case, we're happy our son has beautiful characteristics that are all his own.
Congratulations to the winners of the 2016 Adoptive Families Cover Photo Contest! See the nine photos selected from more than 1,000 entries, and read stories from the proud parents.
What do we teach our children, and what are the born knowing?
How our children feel about a separation, and how we can help them cope.
View the replay of the “Adopting When You’re Already Parenting” webinar. Beth Friedberg, LCSW, explore questions that arise the second time around, from deciding on birth order to preparing your child for a sibling, and more.
I could have merely been her stepmother, but Taylor and I chose to love each other. Not even adolescence can take that away from us.
We tried therapy, but, in the end, we found a childless family who adopted her. We are at peace with our decision. Our families are not. They say we gave up on our daughter.
We’ve been reading a Big Brother book to our three-year-old son (adopted at birth) to prepare him for the arrival of a six-week-old sister.
In this personal essay, one woman compares her adoptive motherhood with what her daughter will experience after pregnancy, and her quest to find answers.
When your family includes biological and adopted children, how do you make sure everyone feels included?
My sons have a deep and enduring bond. So why do people need to know if they're real brothers?
Wondering whether to raise an only child? Half of all adoptive families do. How they thrive, despite occasional (or frequent!) second thoughts.
An imminent hysterectomy is helping me realize that I no longer want to become pregnant — I only want to be the best mother I can be to my children, who came to me through adoption.