Author Archives: Ellen Singer, LCSW

Adoption Experts answer your questions.

Ask AF: Should We Tell Our Child She Has a Birth Sibling if They Can’t Be in Touch?

Ask AF: Should We Tell Our Child She Has a Birth Sibling if They Can’t Be in Touch?

“Would knowing that somewhere, out in the world, she has a biological sister—but one she can’t get in touch with or live with as a sibling—help our child, or be harmful?”

Adoption Experts answer your questions.

Ask AF: Worried My Daughter Will Think Her Birth Mom Is More “Fun”

“My nine-year-old has been asking me about her birth mother. I was able to find her on social media, but I’m worried about sharing the photos I found.”

Adoption Experts answer your questions.

Ask AF: When a Child Questions Adoption vs. Biology

“Recently, my 12-year-old has been questioning whether an adoptive mother can really love her children as she would biological children. She’ll say things like, ‘You think you love us, but you would love a child you gave birth to more. How should I talk with her about this?”

Read expert advice on answering rude adoption qeustions.

Answering Relatives’ Tricky Questions About Adoption

Adoptive parents are used to fielding questions about adoption — and most of us have an arsenal of replies to give the stranger in the checkout lane, but when it’s a family member making the rude remark, snappy comebacks don’t suffice.

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