Sometimes love comes easy. Other times, it must be earned. This is the story of how I let go of my preconceived ideas about bonding and motherhood and became brave enough to trust my heart.
What if I don’t love this child the same as I love the others? This question is probably every pre-adoptive parent’s most secret worry. Here are the words that reassured me.
“We adopted our 10-year-old daughter as an infant, and adopted her seven- and eight-year-old biological sisters last month. How can we help all three girls bond with each other?”
Adoptive parents and adoptees share their favorite adoption memories from the past year, including first Mother's Days, finalizing adoptions, and gaining access to open records.
A single mother who’s adopting a boy from foster care seeks advice on a challenging older child adoption adjustment. Parents who have adopted older children respond.
A parent solicits opinions about a day care that encourages the children to call the employees “Auntie” and the other children “brothers and sisters.”
Near-strangers feel compelled to tell me about friends who got pregnant after adopting and say, “There’s still hope….” But I don’t hope for a biological child; I hope for a healthy relationship with my two kids.
What do we teach our children, and what are the born knowing?
My daughter came to me at nine years old, so neither of us knows what she looked like as a baby, but walking these aisles is a way for us to recreate what we both lost.
"We found that using massage techniques helped our child relax and eased the transition from an orphanage setting to that of a loving family."
"Moments after bringing our new puppy home, I understood that raising this dog would begin to create a history for our new daughter, would lodge her firmly within our family. A family pet conjures notions of family ties, of belonging."
Adoptive Families sat down for a Q&A with attachment guru Deborah Gray. When will a parent know a bond is in place? How can working parents solidify their connection with a newly adopted child? We asked these questions and more.
Family rituals take on new meaning when we adopt a baby.
When the first few weeks of parenthood were rocky, I found myself worrying: Did we adopt a child I'll never be able to love?
Yes, it’s about your new family. But don’t forget to focus on your work life, too.
Whether you're adopting a newborn or a toddler, learn how to enhance attachment at each developmental stage.
When I became the mother to two, and then three, I learned that you can't love all your children in the same way. But you can love them the same amount.
We're about to adopt a toddler. How can we ease his adjustment during our first weeks as a family?
How do you nurture a child who repels nurturing? Start with these practical ideas.
We knew it was possible for the girl we were fostering to be reunited with her birth mother. But that didn't make it hurt any less.