“We are adopting my sister-in-law’s teenage son after fostering him for five years. What can I say to her at family gatherings, to family who still don’t get that we’ll be his legal parents—and to my son, who hears all of this?”
After finally realizing my dream of becoming a mother, I found what most new parents find—along with the bliss come days filled with crying, spit-up, and leaking diapers. But when I dared to vent, I was chided: “You wanted to adopt…you asked for this!”
“My husband was advised that some adoptive parents ‘hide’ the adoption process and feign pregnancy on social media for friends and extended family. Has anyone done this?”
Some children seem to know the rules naturally, others need a little help.
“I need help dealing with unsupportive relatives who seem to think ‘adoption’ is a dirty word. How can I talk with them about adoption?”
Adoptive parents share whether their children have friends who are also adoptees and, if so, how the children met.
In many families, relationships come without exact names. While adoption highlighted this truth, it was already a given in my family—and maybe in yours, too?
From time to bond to a scrapbook from the orphanage to IKEA furniture (and assembly!), parents share their favorite gifts they received after adopting their child.
A prospective adoptive parent shares her feelings of sadness as the holidays approach while waiting to adopt. Parents who have been there offer advice.
Though society doesn’t know what to do with birth mothers, I knew I had a place with my son’s parents. At his second birthday party, I learned that I had a place with their family, too.
After you adopt a child from another culture, how do you adapt to life as a multicultural family?
As crazy as it sounds, the transition from being childless to becoming a parent has given me time I didn't have before.
I asked my family not to come to the hospital when she was born, then mourned their absence. Enter her birth relatives.
Planning a trip to see second cousins or great aunts? Before you travel, help your child and relatives expand their conceptions of family.
Adoptive parents pushing the mid-century mark are joining playgroups and diggingDora the Explorer. What's age got to do with it?
When you finally bring your child home, yes, you will feel elated. But many new adoptive moms and dads are surprised by the complex emotions that can sit on the outskirts of that joy.
Most parents look forward to sharing this time of the year with their children. But less is often more when it comes to holiday activities.
Sometimes teens feel left out of the in crowd. Here's how to help.
The way you respond to questions like, “What is adoption?” can influence how a person understands adoptive families–and explains them to others. Use these ideas to correct misinformation and set a positive tone.
A letter can deliver the news to loved ones in efficiently and affectionately. The key is to communicate how thrilled you are about adopting.