White parents do not have the experience of feeling vulnerable or targeted based on race, so telling a transracially adopted child "I know how you feel" isn't right—but silence is also not the answer. Adoptees and experts discuss how parents should speak out and take action.
Helping Children Develop a Positive Racial Identity After Transracial Adoption
When you adopt a child of a different race, you have a responsibility to help him or her understand race and racism. Adoption experts, adoptive parents, and transracial adoptees share their perspectives on developing a positive racial identity.
Teens need their parents' guidance in forming their racial identity.
I'm not sure why I never told my children. But when they asked, I knew it was time to end the secrecy for good.
"Growing up, makeup felt like a mask—a cover-up for my true inner self."
“We have always tried to make sure our internationally adopted son feels proud of his heritage. This year, when the class was writing about Thanksgiving, he asked if he could skip the assignment because people from his birth country do not celebrate Thanksgiving. I know I need to talk to him, but I’m not sure where to start.”
When you form a transracial family, you must build in a system to combat racism.
We asked our reader panel: Have you ever been asked to explain your child's ethnic identity? How do you respond?
Traveling to our daughters' birth country allowed us to bond, both with their ethnic heritage and our fellow travelers.
Having children was something that other people did. But giving birth has given me a sense of connection I never felt before.
A summer heritage camp that's all about helping transracial families.
Many symbols commonly found on children’s clothing connote racist stereotypes of black people. Knowing this, should transracial adoptive parents still dress their black children in onesies and shirts featuring monkeys, zebras, and watermelons?
One summer, we traded our Hawaiian home for Berkeley, CA so our son could learn about more ethnic differences and similarities.
Transracial adoptees often grow up knowing that their families love them, but not truly feeling included or close to them. Here’s what would have helped in raising a black child in a white family and a racist world.
In this excerpt from her memoir, Lucky Girl, Meiling Hopgood describes her initial rejection of "looking Asian" growing up in mostly-White rural Michigan, and how she learned to embrace her Chinese heritage.
We asked readers, “Have you found any dolls or other toys that reflect your child’s race and/or birth culture that you would specifically recommend?” Here are the top picks.
Faced with a young daughter's despair, a mother realizes her child must reconnect with the past.
We asked AF readers to tell us about their experiences with transracial adoption.
As parents, we live in constant tension: How thoroughly should we prepare our kids for the ugliness that exists in the world? For my son's safety, I can't afford to be vague when it comes to racism.
We asked readers what tips, resources, experiences they had to say about transracial parenting. Here, we share their responses.
Families that expand their worlds to incorporate all kinds of cultures help their children develop strong racial identities.