"Going to college provides the time and distance for young adult adoptees to experiment with and sort out their own interests and self-expectations."
Three adolescents share their experiences with open adoption, and how they feel about their relationships with their birth family.
Teens need their parents' guidance in forming their racial identity.
When teens establish contact with their birth families, they face risks, as well as rewards.
Teens may try on different identities as they seek to determine who they are.
An adolescent's peers may tell you something about their inner life.
Writing a journal is a great way to build a stronger sense of self.
This story of a teen adopted from Latin America tackles questions of identity, race, birth culture, and more.
“I recently found out that my teen is friends with his birth mother on Facebook. I feel badly that I found this out by ‘snooping,’ but I am also shocked and upset that she didn’t try to contact us or the adoption agency first. What should we do?”
Avoid sit down lectures and look for teachable moments to get your teen to open up.
Part of how teens form identity is by finding ways they are alike and different from their family. They may want to search for their genetic relatives to figuring out who they are and how to emotionally put pieces in place.
Teens don't tend to talk with their friends about their feelings about being adopted, being teased, or other tough topics. But if you have a healthy, trusting relationship, they'll open up to you. An adoption therapist advises on maintaining an empathic connection with your teen.
The breakup of a family can be especially hard for adopted teens. Here's why.
As teen's desire more control over their lives, they want to be the decision-makers in determining contact with birth family.
Can't get your teen to talk? Rent a movie.
Help your teen adoptee overcome fear of leaving home with this advice.
Your teen will want to know more about his birth father—and his birth parents' relationship.
Trinity B. Jones is a foster kid who's "been to enough adoption picnics to know that adoptive parents want a cute little baby to hold, not a 15-year-old with brown skin, a 34-C, and a nose ring."
It's important to look for those natural, easy times when personal, tender issues can be touched upon.
Want to strengthen your teen's sense of belonging? Make family meals mandatory.