After a birth country visit to China that was too much, too soon for my seven-year-old daughter, she and a friend returned on their own terms as teens. The trip helped them imagine what their lives might have been and explore their Chinese-American identities.
In this excerpt from Beneath the Mask: Understanding Adopted Teens, we take a look at what goes on in the minds of teens, and offer advice for talking with them.
Can't pry your teen from the computer? The Internet can be a great tool for finding identity and networking with other adopted teens.
Sometimes, a teen's behavior calls for outside help. What to watch for and how to find the right adoption therapist.
Adolescence is tough, but don't worry: our adopted kids' experiences will usually fall well within the bounds of typical teen development.
As your teen's thinking becomes more sophisticated, she'll want to know more about her adoption.
My daughter, whom I swear I just brought home yesterday, is gracefully settling into college.
Adoptive Families explores common situations you may face while parenting your adopted teen.
Got a Web-savvy teen on your hands? Here's how to set safety guidelines for online birth family contact.
By tuning in to what children understand about adoption at different ages, our talks become richer, more intimate, and ultimately more effective.
When they're angry at us, teens may bring up the subject of birth parents. Here's how to answer calmly.
As teens seek independence, they rethink their relationships with all the adults in their lives — including birth parents.
Sometimes teens feel left out of the in crowd. Here's how to help.
Sleepovers and play dates give our kids an intimate glimpse of life in a different family — and may prompt reflections and questions.
An adoption support group can provide a safe and comfortable venue for your teen to explore adoption and his larger identity in a new, more complex way.
I began to have second thoughts about sharing my story in application essays — just as it’s no one else’s business, it shouldn’t factor into a college’s decision to accept me.
How can you help your child deal with the physical and emotional changes that puberty brings?
How can you respond to bullying or protect your teen from becoming a target?
In this open adoption video, teen and young adult adoptees who grew up knowing their birth parents share their thoughts and experiences.
In the middle-school years, parents must step back and help their child learn to stand up for herself, in school and in the larger world.