When my daughter Hope started kindergarten at her progressive school here in diverse New York City, we were both taken by surprise by the persistent, direct adoption questions she faced from classmates, questions that adults would be reluctant to pose.
When non-traditional families are making the decision to adopt, the first questions they often have are, "How will my identity impact my adoption?"
“We cannot build healthy relationships with our children on secrecy and lies—and this includes lies of omission.”
As you work on your adoption, never hesitate to ask your social worker, attorney, or adoption agency, “What exactly do you mean by that?”
My experience is that families are families, period. It doesn’t matter if the people in the family share DNA. It doesn’t matter if kids have come from their mother’s bodies or not. Kids are kids, and parents are parents.
What do I do if my child has emotional, behavioral, or academic problems?
Should I tell my child's doctor she was adopted? What about her school?
Parents share how they impart and strengthen their child's adoption story.
Speaking about birth history helps all family members get used to the words and narrative, and lets your child know that he or she can always come forward with questions and emotions about birth parents.
What is “open adoption” — and what might it mean for your family?
Every family bonds differently. Here, readers share what worked for them.
Bonding won't always be automatic. Read up on common problems you and your child might encounter.
How can I bond with a child that “isn’t mine”?
No matter how old your child is when she comes home, learn how to boost her attachment and connect her to her new family.
What goes wrong in international adoptions — and how can you help yours go through?
Adoptions fall apart at different stages (with different legal consequences), and there are different reasons for each kind of failure.
Don’t be afraid to take time to grieve after a failed adoption. Your future family will be better for it.
AF readers share how they reacted when they received their adoption referral.
Don’t agree to any match or referral on the spot. Before moving forward, ask yourself these questions.
What happens when you get a referral?