“I recently found out that my teen is friends with his birth mother on Facebook. I feel badly that I found this out by ‘snooping,’ but I am also shocked and upset that she didn’t try to contact us or the adoption agency first. What should we do?”
Avoid sit down lectures and look for teachable moments to get your teen to open up.
Part of how teens form identity is by finding ways they are alike and different from their family. They may want to search for their genetic relatives to figuring out who they are and how to emotionally put pieces in place.
Teens don't tend to talk with their friends about their feelings about being adopted, being teased, or other tough topics. But if you have a healthy, trusting relationship, they'll open up to you. An adoption therapist advises on maintaining an empathic connection with your teen.
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As teen's desire more control over their lives, they want to be the decision-makers in determining contact with birth family.
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Your teen will want to know more about his birth father—and his birth parents' relationship.
Trinity B. Jones is a foster kid who's "been to enough adoption picnics to know that adoptive parents want a cute little baby to hold, not a 15-year-old with brown skin, a 34-C, and a nose ring."
It's important to look for those natural, easy times when personal, tender issues can be touched upon.
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It can be easier for adopted teens to express anger than the emotions that are often behind it: vulnerability, weakness, or uncertainty. Help your adolescent deal with these complex feelings in more effective ways.
The Internet requires a cautious approach when teens are looking for answers about adoption.
As your teen heads toward adulthood, she'll strive to discover who she is.
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By tuning in to what children understand about adoption at different ages, our talks become richer, more intimate, and ultimately more effective.
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