Though we never heard back from our son's birth mother, I continued to write, bragging with a motherly pride I thought only she could understand.
Six families share their amazing stories about the power of birth sibling connections.
It has been hard to watch Kenneth struggle as a birth dad in an open adoption. I wish my husband and I could make it easier for him, and for our son.
After seven years, we decided to bring our daughter's birth father back into her life. But was she ready for him?
After three domestic adoptions, we have three very different levels of openness with each of our children's birth families.
"We have a semi-open relationship with our 14-year-old son's birth mother. Recently, he asked if we could invite her for a weekend. I trust his birth mom, but I'm worried."
Saying Matthew was "saved" implies doubt about his desirability, his worthiness to be adopted. "After all, you didn't have to take in this baby," is the unspoken message.
Though I'm indisputably my daughter's mom, the time she spends with her birth mother seems to offer something I can't.
The tragic loss of our son's birth mother was followed by a powerful new connection with his birth family.
Buying a dollhouse for my daughter's third birthday was a cinch. Finding the right family to live in it was a bit more difficult.
I planned our homeland trip, hoping to see my children's birthplaces. Surprisingly, those proved elusive, but we found meaning at every turn.
The 894 pages of my daughter's foster care case history described her birth mother's hard life, scarred by poverty, drug addiction, and homelessness. I never expected to meet her—much less like her.
"Many parents feel guilty because their joy is the direct result of a difficult decision by the birth mother — someone you may have grown to care about. So when a new adoptive mother sees the birth mother in intense pain, she asks herself, 'Was adoption really the right thing to do?'"
Is the term 'birth mother' an example of appropriate, positive language — or an offensive and demeaning label?
When our two children began to ask questions — lots of questions — my partner and I found answers in homemade adoption storybooks.
Your family — especially older relatives — may not get why you are choosing an open adoption. Adoption expert Kathleen Silber gives advice on what to say.
Parents involved in open adoptions speak honestly about working through challenges and keeping the relationship going through life changes.
Answers to your parenting questions.
How do you break bad news about job loss, illness, or divorce to the birth parents in an open adoption relationship?
Practices once confined to open adoption are quickly becoming the norm. When will the language catch up?