“At what age should we start letting our daughter take the lead in birth parent contact? I know that my daughter will be able to call her birth mom freely when she gets her own cellphone, so how do we step back responsibly?”
Adoptive moms and dads share how their open adoptions have changed over time — whether they became more or less open, and why.
At a recent gathering, an acquaintance made a comment based on the astonishingly misguided and downright vulgar assumption that my child’s birth parents are unworthy or subpar. Here’s how I responded.
Over decades as a foster and adoptive parent and an adoption social worker, I have mothered and supported hundreds of children. Each one has taught me more than I passed along to them. Here is just some of that wisdom.
“Our son’s birth mother is now married and parenting a newborn. How should I answer if he asks why they couldn’t raise him?”
I used to see adoption from only one viewpoint—that of the adoptive parents. But working in the field before becoming an adoptive mother opened my eyes to how complex and bittersweet adoption can be.
Parents in open adoptions share whether they have a post-adoption contact agreement with their child’s birth parents and, if so, what it includes.
In “Naming Madison”, Dawn Friedman argued in favor of keeping her daughter’s birth name. We asked our readers: Should adoptive parents choose their child’s name?
As grade-school kids learn more about adoption, they begin to ask more questions. How do you respond?
A study, the Early Growth and Development Study, is shedding light on open adoption attitudes and outcomes. Here are some basic findings, as well as AF poll results on families’ open adoption experiences.
Two adult adoptees are working on the first edition of a Chinese Birth Parent Search Manual, to be released at the end of 2016.
Would it really be possible to fill out my daughter’s hazy memories by typing names into a search engine?
The first study on this topic provides fascinating insights about adoptees’ and parents’ motivations to search, search methods used, the initial reunion, and ongoing contact.
I send letters with pictures to my children’s birth parents via our adoption agencies.
We’ve been selected by a birth mom who is due in two months. Our attorney advised us to draw up a contact agreement prior to the birth. What should we include?
Parenting children with different DNA opened up new worlds for me. Loving who they are means parenting their DNA and not my own agenda.
An engaging whodunit with adoption themes.
Sleepovers and play dates give our kids an intimate glimpse of life in a different family — and may prompt reflections and questions.
In this open adoption video, teen and young adult adoptees who grew up knowing their birth parents share their thoughts and experiences.
Don’t be surprised if your child wants to know about his birth brothers and sisters. Such questions are healthy — and normal.