Feeling Guilt Over the Birth Mother's Grief

After your adoption is finalized, you may not be prepared to witness your child's birth mother's intense grief, and wonder what, if anything, you can do. Our expert offers advice on how to help her — and yourself.

“Many parents feel guilty because their joy is the direct result of a difficult decision by the birth mother — someone you may have grown to care about. So when a new adoptive mother sees the birth mother in intense pain, she asks herself, ‘Was adoption really the right thing to do?'”


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