"We Didn't 'Save' Our Son Through Adoption"

We chose transracial adoption because we knew it would be best for our family. We do not expect our son's gratitude for this.

"We did not 'save' our child" writes a mother through transracial adoption

Saying Matthew was “saved” implies doubt about his desirability, his worthiness to be adopted. “After all, you didn’t have to take in this baby,” is the unspoken message.


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