Have you ever been at a baby shower where they play a home video of the mother-to-be surprising her partner with news of her pregnancy? As we grappled with infertility, my wife and I hated those videos, even as we desperately hoped for one of our own.
Belle Boggs's The Art of Waiting sets her own struggles with infertility within a larger framework of sociological, cultural, biological, and literary attitudes toward reproduction and motherhood. In this excerpt, she explores "Baby Fever," the longing have a child that sent many of us on our infertility and adoption journeys.
After finally realizing my dream of becoming a mother, I found what most new parents find—along with the bliss come days filled with crying, spit-up, and leaking diapers. But when I dared to vent, I was chided: “You wanted to adopt…you asked for this!”
As I dove into research about in vitro fertilization, I kept waiting to be excited about this wondrous technology. But the excitement never came. When our talk turned to adoption, however, I felt the rebirth of hope.
I may not remember when I first knew I wanted to be a mother, but the moments leading up to and the first time I saw my daughters are indelibly etched in my memory.
When I bought the ornament, I imagined hanging it on the tree with the child I was carrying. But after I miscarried, I packed it away for years.
Under the World Health Organization’s previous definition, infertility was failure to achieve pregnancy after 12 months or more of regular unprotected sexual intercourse. Its expanded version will apply to more families.
Near-strangers feel compelled to tell me about friends who got pregnant after adopting and say, “There’s still hope….” But I don’t hope for a biological child; I hope for a healthy relationship with my two kids.
“After four years of fertility treatments, a friend recommended that we attend an adoption seminar. My husband and I weren’t open to adoption, but we decided to go. The hour-and-a-half seminar changed our lives forever.”
Men are often shocked, and even ashamed, when they learn they will need to use a donor due to male infertility. They needn’t be. A male infertility specialist shares stories of families built through sperm donation.
After you’ve poured endless time and energy into your fertility journey, what do you do when the doctor says, “I’m sorry… We’ve done all we can do apart from egg donation, embryo donation, or surrogacy”? Here’s how to work through the heartbreak.
An overview of what’s involved in the decision to use donor egg after infertility, including medical options, programs, costs, and more.
From a woman who finally became an adoptive mother after a decade of trying, here are a few things I wish someone had told me years ago.
The cruelest parts of infertility? Having to attend baby showers, coo over ultrasound pictures, and being told it’s “God’s will” that you’re still childless.
What it's normal to feel, even after you adopt and fall in love with your child.
Answers to your parenting questions.
The star of My Big Fat Greek Wedding chronicles her journey to motherhood.
A hilarious personal account of the ups and downs of infertility and adoption.
Q: My husband and I became parents via adoption after a long struggle with infertility. Our son, now two, is truly the love of our lives. When my best friend recently had a baby, I was surprised to feel sad, and even jealous. How can I get over this? A: If someone cries at a wedding, its…
Author Tom LaMarr and his wife thought they had plenty of time to have a kid — until they didn't.