It's not uncommon for preteens to pretend they weren't adopted, in an effort to not be different.
Growing Up Adopted: Parenting School-Aged Children
Practical advice for parenting adopted school-aged children, from ages 6 through 9.
Answers to your parenting questions.
My middle schoolers often get teased about the way they look or the fact that they were adopted. What can they say to the teasers?
Sleepovers and play dates give our kids an intimate glimpse of life in a different family — and may prompt reflections and questions.
As they progress through grade school, most children want to "blend in" and be part of the crowd. But what if a child feels that the way she joined her family–through adoption–sets her apart?
Help get your school ready for your child.
Our children rely on us to guide them through saying goodbye.
When Janice and Paul's daughter turned 7, they breathed a sigh of relief. Last year Emily's favorite word was "no," and she talked back constantly. Alas, now she seemed worried and sad. She felt that no one liked her at school, that the other kids thought she was weird.
You used to be the coolest mom on the block–at least in the mind of your kid. Now she rolls her eyes at everything you do. What's up?
Adopted persons tend to experience seven core issues related to their adoption. Discussions of adoption over the years have often overlooked the pain and struggles of adoptees, but identifying these core issues and helping children integrate them as they grow validates their experiences, decreasing feelings of being different and isolated.
Parents cannot prevent their child from experiencing exclusion or feeling "different" from time to time. You can, however, lessen the negative effects of this common occurrence during the preteen years.
Around age six or seven, children start to wonder, "Who am I?" This is when our children can truly understand that joining your family through adoption means they left another.
As kids grow up, they look to their friends for acceptance — and desperately want to fit in.
Adoptive children can feel familial changes, like divorce after adoption, particularly keenly. Use these tips to help kids adapt to new stepparents.
What will my child learn and talk about at camp? What would our family take away from a week attending together?
Tween adoptees may walk away from their cultural heritage, family outings, and even their family as they try to fit in with peers.
The school year brings the realization that not every child has two sets of parents. Here's how to help your child cope.
Games of being found and reunion can comfort all children.
The recession is a grown-up problem, but kids may be having money-related concerns of their own. Here's how to calm their fears.
Parents wonder if preteens will experience separation anxiety at sleep away camp. Learn how to tell if yours is ready, and then ease the transition.