If you look like your child, you may be spared inquisitive glances or nosy questions about adoption from strangers. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have to discuss the topic.
Talking About Adoption with Children
Children who joined their families through adoption need to know how adoption works, to feel free to ask questions (and get honest answers), and to learn any details you know about their birth families. Find talking tips below.
Kids’ questions about sex are a tad more complicated when adoption is involved. Here, our experts give you the answers you need.
Seeing where she was born—where she stayed with her birth mom and where we met her—gave my daughter greater confidence in her adoption story.
We may feel one way or the other, but it’s our kids who must decide.
Should parents initiate talk about adoption or wait for their child’s questions? Sometimes you lead, say the authors, and sometimes you follow.
I adopted my grandson eight years ago, and he has no idea that I’m his grandmother.
Answering kids’ questions about birth parents.
Adoptive Families explores common situations you may face while parenting your adopted teen.
My husband and I have a friendly relationship with the birth mother of our 3-year-old daughter. We talk on the phone, exchange letters regularly, and visit a few times a year.
Don’t let your preschooler catch you off-guard! Be prepared to talk about the birds, the bees, and adoption.
Imaginative play can bring your preschooler hours of fun — and offer a window into her adoption story.
Can you recommend some books that will help us explain the facts of life?
Not sure when — or how — to bring up adoption with your toddler or preschooler? Here’s where to begin.
We have an open adoption with our 30-month-old son’s birth family. Last night we were looking at a photo album.
Keep talks with your child simple and relaxed. Your ease with discussing adoption lays the groundwork for a lifelong dialogue.
Is it what you say, how early you say it, or how often you say it that matters most to your child? Barbara Russell gives tips on talking about adoption with your child.
Let what your child can understand about adoption guide what you tell him about his story.
Answers to your parenting questions.
Our son is four. We adopted him at birth. I know that you’re supposed to talk about adoption from an early age–but the years kept going by and we failed to do so. Did we wait too long?
My daughter’s birth parents are Caucasian and African-American. How should we talk with her about race? How do we fill out forms that ask about race and allow you to check only one box?