Talking Matters

When talking to children about adoption, secrecy is out, and openness and honesty are in.

Fifty years ago, adoptive parents often kept up the pretense that their children had been born to them. Some adoptive moms even wore padded maternity clothes for months prior to the arrival of the baby. Obviously, these families were not adopting 10-year-olds. The adoption process of that time enabled this pretense. There was an “over-supply” of white babies and the practice was controlled by social workers. Thus, adopting parents could feel confident of both an arrival date and a child ...

If you look like your child, you may be spared inquisitive glances or nosy questions about adoption from strangers. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have to discuss the topic.


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