Discussing a Difficult Past

When you adopt an older child from foster care, honest discussions about his birth family and early life will give him closure — and a sense of relief and confidence in his adoption.

Talking about difficult adoption stories
It's common for parents of school-age children to feel stuck in this dilemma. Our kids are in safe, loving homes now — wouldn't talking about their early experiences just upset them, or cause feelings of grief or anger to resurface? Some parents believe that if their child knows all about the "bad stuff," he will internalize it and develop an unhealthy self-image. But when a child knows the truth, and sees that you still love him, there is little risk, ...

My child’s background was tough. Now that he’s with our family, do we really need to discuss the past?


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