"Unexpected Contact with Our Birth Mother"

We hadn't planned on opening our adoption. But when my daughter's birth mother requested a letter, how could I say no?

Our daughter, Emmie, had been part of our family for just a few months when I picked up the phone and heard words I had never expected to hear. "Emmie's birth mother in South Korea has requested non-identifying contact," said the measured voice from our adoption agency. "She hopes you would be willing to write to her and send some pictures of Emmie. We don't know whether this is a one-time request or if she wants ongoing contact. Sometimes birth mothers ...

We hadn’t planned on an open adoption. But when my daughter’s birth mother requested a letter, how could I say no?


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