Birth Parent Fantasies — and Fears

Is your child entertaining a wild birth parent fantasy? Don't worry — it's totally normal.

A girl engaging in a birth parent fantasy
Around ages six to seven, children are capable of more complex thinking and begin to grasp what adoption means. This gives rise to new, sometimes alarming fantasies and fears. While many children daydream about another set of parents — who may be rich, or who don't make their kids go to bed at 9 P.M. or restrict television shows — the difference for adopted kids is that they actually do have another set of parents. Between the ages of eight ...

An adopted child may imagine life with her birth parents as “the road not taken.” Parents should share what they know and support exploration.


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