The Birth of Tradition

Holiday rituals bring families closer together. Incorporate your new child into your family's traditions to show them they're now a part of your life forever.

Incorporate your new baby into holiday rituals

The holidays are a time of tradition and ritual. They remind us to connect, celebrate, and remember, and offer opportunities to strengthen family bonds. The special holiday rituals we create — indeed, the traditions and routines forged for any time of the year — reflect a family’s love, comfort, and attachment. Children thrive on family rituals, consistent routines that include added meaning and emotion.

We may think that babies won’t remember being a part of a ritual, but the truth is the opposite. From day one, babies learn — and make memories. They live, interact, and create memories through all of their senses. These early memories are visceral, through the body, and affective, through emotion.

Our babies come to us with a set of memories, formed during their adoption journeys. We must create lasting family memories for them, involve them in traditions and rituals. These rites honor who we are, and celebrate seasons, faith, culture, holidays — and family.

Involved from the Get-Go

Infants are often at the center of rituals, such as christenings and naming ceremonies. Our babies also need rituals that celebrate the wonderful way our families are formed, such as coming-home (“gotcha day”) celebrations, the creation of adoption lifebooks, and traditional tellings of “the day we met you.”

Families are thrilled and eager to include babies into holiday rituals. Some of these reflect longstanding family tradition, often honoring cultural or religious backgrounds and beliefs.

These rituals can be modified and enhanced to include your adopted baby in special ways. If, for example, your child’s birth culture is different from yours, December holidays may include new dimensions. Or you may choose to add a ritual in recognition of your baby’s birth parents.

Let your infant or toddler play a role in family holiday rituals early on. Bring him into the holiday-meal preparations, placing him in a safe place near you as you work. Let him see and hear the interactions, feel the warmth of foods cooking, smell the aromas, and taste what’s being prepared.

Let him touch and see the adoption-journey photo album you’re making. Tell him his story over and over.

Rituals reflect who you are as a family. By involving your baby in existing and new traditions, you show him who he is, that he belongs to a family and a society, and that he is and will forever be cherished.

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