"Intimate Strangers"

One mother tells the heart-wrenching story of meeting — and deeply bonding with — her son's birth mother.

Building a relationship with a birth mother
In the beginning, my child's birth mother was just a voice on the telephone from a hundred and fifty miles away. She was the one who answered my ad in an alternative newspaper — one of those notices you see that begins “Loving couple, in their thirties, unable to bear children….” From that first moment, I liked everything about her, and that impression never wavered as we progressed from businesslike strangers exchanging resumes to intimates planning a tender offer of ...

She was going to have a child but couldn’t keep it, I wanted a child desperately but couldn’t have one. She was the mother at birth; I was the mother right after. It sounds simple, but it wasn’t.


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