"Becoming a Mother"

For this mother, bonding didn't happen immediately. But over time, she could look at her daughter and know she was her mom.

Bonding with a baby doesn't always happen immediately
Somewhere along the way, between "gotcha" and today, I became her mother. It's hard to say when. The day I first saw her, I was an independent, 44-year-old woman, and she was a cute, 10-month-old, baby girl. Now, when I look at her, I know that I am her mother, and she is my daughter. After a year-and-a-half and mountains of paperwork, a child was placed in my arms. We were strangers. She was leaving the known world of her ...

In this personal essay, the author reflects on the surprising fierceness of feeling like a mom.


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