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Feeling Guilt Over the Birth Mom’s Grief

"Many parents feel guilty because their joy is the direct result of a difficult decision by the birth mother — someone you may have grown to care about. So when a new adoptive mother sees the birth mother in intense pain, she asks herself, 'Was adoption really the right thing to do?'"

Announcing your adoption can be done through a letter to family and friends

“Finding Her Birth Mother, A World Apart”

Opening our daughter's international adoption has allowed her to ask questions and receive answers, brought her birth mother a sense of peace from knowing that her child is alive, well, and happy, and given us the unforgettable privilege of personally thanking our child's birth mother.

Favorite Reads of 2013

Many new books with adoption storylines or themes were published in 2013. Here are your favorites, for parents and children, with our picks added to the list.

Adoption expert Lois Melina on talking with adopted children about unknown birth family information

When Parents are the Educators

Raising adoption awareness at school can protect your child from thoughtless remarks and benefit classmates, teachers, and the school community. Just be sure to tread lightly and respect boundaries, especially your child’s.

Adoption expert Lois Melina on talking with adopted children about unknown birth family information

A Family Identity

A family value statement can build strong bonds and see you through both good times and bad.

Adoption expert Lois Melina on talking with adopted children about unknown birth family information

Dealing with Differences

Our culture isn't always compassionate toward those who fall outside the "norm." But we can help our children embrace their uniqueness — and become more tolerant, too.

Private Isn’t Secret

Nosy comments from strangers are one thing. But what do you do when it's a child who's asking difficult questions?

Adoption expert Lois Melina on talking with adopted children about unknown birth family information

When They Just Don’t Get It

The world knows a lot more about adoption these days, but not enough. It's our job to keep chipping away at society's biases, for the sake of our kids.

Adoption expert Lois Melina on talking with adopted children about unknown birth family information

When Your Child Has Birth Siblings

Parents who know that one child was placed for adoption while a sibling was not may wonder how to explain it in a way their child can understand.

Adoption Experts answer your questions.

Ask AF: Contacting Birth Siblings

"Our 10-year-old daughter recently asked if she has any brothers or sisters. She does, but we don't know how to start explaining." Kathleen Silber offers advice.

an adoptive mother takes a photo on her phone to send to her baby's birth mother as an open adoption update

Dear Birth Mother

You've agreed to provide updates to your baby's birth mother. But now that your baby is home, what information do you share?

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Contact with Birth Parents

We just brought our newborn home and are wondering how to communicate with his birth mother. How do we start?

Adoption Experts answer your questions.

Ask AF: Contacting a Birth Mother

A parent asks whether contacting her child's birth mother while the child is still a preteen is a good idea. Read Ronny Diamond's response.

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