"Which Ones Are Yours?"

She has children by birth and by adoption, and is tired of answering this and other heritage queries. This mom shares her family's beautiful story.

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There’s this poem I’m supposed to love. I first read it when we adopted our oldest son: Not flesh of my flesh nor bone of my bone/But still miraculously my own./Never forget, for a single minute,/You didn’t grow under my heart, but in it.


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