Ask AF: An Agency Hurdle

One bad experience with an adoption agency can leave a bad taste in your mouth. Here, an expert offers advice on restarting the process.

Q: My husband and I had a bad experience with an adoption agency. We didn’t even get to the formal homestudy stage before a social worker came for a chat and said negative things about our home, like the lack of furniture (we had recently moved). Does this information go into a database of some kind? Should we work with another agency?

 

A: I’m sorry that you had a disappointing first experience with an adoption agency. That agency may not release any information about you without your permission. It will not go into a database that is accessible to an outside party.

Another agency you apply to will ask whether you have applied to adopt in the past. You should respond honestly. You can say that a homestudy was not completed, and you’ll probably be asked why. Adoption agencies know that various agencies have different requirements and perspectives.

Though you feel you were wrongly assessed, you might consider the agency’s complaints. Is there a real problem? Is there anything you would alter or remedy before restarting the process?

Adoption Agencies

City
La Crosse
WI
Adoption Routes/Programs
U.S. Newborn, International
Agape Adoptions
City
Sumner
WA
Adoption Routes/Programs
International, Special Needs/Waiting Child
City
Evanston
IL
Adoption Routes/Programs
U.S. Newborn, International, Special Needs/Waiting Child
ADOPTIONS FROM THE HEART
City
Wynnewood
PA
Adoption Routes/Programs
U.S. Newborn
Adoption Choice Inc.
City
Green Bay
WI
Adoption Routes/Programs
U.S. Newborn, U.S. Foster, International
Family & Children’s Agency
City
Norwalk
CT
Adoption Routes/Programs
U.S. Newborn, International

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