"To Those Still Waiting"

The road up to–and after–adoption is full of conflicting feelings. One adoptive mother reflects on her experiences, and shares the lessons she's learned along the way.

Conflicted feelings

Our “adoption journey” was not an easy one. No, our road was bumpy and dark and full of unmarked turns that were gently referred to by our social workers as failed matches or changes of heart. With every disappointment we endured, I struggled with what I call the both/and—holding two conflicting feelings at once.


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