View the replay of the webinar “Imagining Your Future Child,” with Lauren Jiang, LMSW, to learn how to decide on the age, racial identity, and medical history of the child you will be best equipped to adopt and parent.
Information & Advice to Help You Decide on Adoption Options
Understanding your adoption options: domestic, foster, and international adoption; same-race or transracial adoption; the child’s medical background or special needs
I have talked with many people who have adopted or used donor eggs or sperm, and they all say the same thing: “It doesn’t matter at all! This is our child one thousand percent.”
When our own fertility treatment finally failed, Michael said, “There will always be a part of us that wishes that we had met when were younger and could have had children naturally together.” At the time, I thought I would always feel that way…
Our path to family had its share of twists and turns. That was how we landed at Plan J, also known as becoming parents through Indian surrogacy.
Experts offer advice on how to talk to your child about donor conception.
View the replay of the webinar “Adoption Paperwork, Explained,” with Ketiwe Boahene, to learn about all the documentation required for your adoption home study, why you need it, and how to obtain it.
Peg Studaker, supervisor of the Waiting International Child Program at Children’s Home Society and Family Services, in Minnesota, says: “Parenting children with special needs should be a family’s first choice. Adopting a special-needs child should never be a second choice because the family could not get the child they really wanted to parent.”
For lots of adoptive parents, the hardest part of the process is the “choice” — particularly what age they should adopt.
When I was struggling with infertility, friends and family mistakenly said insensitive things. Now that I’m an adoptive parent, I’m more careful with my words.
What prospective adoptive parents need to know if having a boy or a girl is important to them.
Five years on: We have been “trying” for three years, and now are deep into the medical crapshoot of infertility treatment. Soon it becomes clear that we will never have our own biological children.
There is only one good reason to adopt, just as there is only one good reason to bear a child: Your desire to be a parent is greater than your fear.
Many, many couples are deeply divided about adoption. Marriage counselors and social workers say the reluctant partner is usually the male, whose concerns may range from simple ambivalence about parenthood in general to specific concerns about loving a child who’s not related by blood.
Different agencies and attorneys specialize in different kinds of adoption, so you need to think about what kind of child—what age, what race—is right for you before you make any kind of commitment to an agency or attorney. You may also end up using a combination of partners, or you may choose to work independently.
When you bear or raise children, you step into the unknown. If you adopt, you take a step further. You can’t predict what baby would come from your own genetic mix, but you might recognize traits as the child grows up: “He’s got grandpa’s ears.” With an adopted child, there’s an element of mystery: “Where did that nose come from?”
If you’re considering adoption and hearing falsehoods for family and friends, read on to get real adoption facts to debunk the fiction.
Is adoption for you? Explore your options here.
Looking to adopt again as a single parent? Here’s what you need to know.
Choosing age, race, and even gender is sometimes seen as the perk of adoption. Be careful not to attach expectations to these selections.
No one adoption route is right for every family. AF readers describe the thinking that went behind the route they chose.