Single Adopters & Parents Resources
Single OptionsRecent changes in several sending countries' adoption policies have left prospective single moms and dads uncertain about where to turn. Here's an up-to-date list to help guide you on your journey. DOWNLOAD THE LIST (updated February 13, 2009)
In this Excel spreadsheet, you'll find adoption agencies and sending countries currently working with singles. The list is subject to change, as policies and programs can change frequently and often unexpectedly—so be sure to check back for updates. (Adoption professionals: To add or submit changes to this list, please email letters (at) adoptivefamilies (dot) com.) You can also stay up to date on adoption news at adoptivefamilies.com/news.
Adoptive Families Articles
- From the Bottom of My Heart The "thank you" we sometimes forget to say.
- Sometime in The Night A single man becomes a father.
- Making a Life for Two Looking back at her sometimes difficult transition to family life, a mom describes learning to take care of herself as well as her daughter.
- Family Patterns A cry in the night reminds one mother how much families have changed and how much love stays the same.
- Old Bones I’ve reached a point in life where both my young daughter and my aging mother depend on me. Can I afford to be fragile?
- Post-Adoption Planning: What Single Parents Should Consider
- A Poodle for Anna Hugging our new dog, my daughter learns that no matter what the behavior, our family is forever.
- Fostering Love The emotional risks were daunting. But foster adoption was still the best option for me.
- Gaining Time As crazy as it sounds, the transition from being childless to becoming a parent has given me time I didn't have before.
- The Daddy Question How you respond depends on who's asking...
- Someone to Count On Danielle had been in and out of several homes before coming to mine. But everything changed when she learned that this one is forever.
- The Second Half of My Life I’d been a hard-driving reporter and happily single. But now I was ready for something more.
- Love and Marriage It took the wedding fantasies of a four-year-old to help me remember my own.
- Until the Real Thing Comes Along Tired of waiting for the “perfect package,” the author finds her future in the tiny hands of her new daughter.
- And Baby Makes Three A single mom’s decision to adopt a second time.
- Sweating the Small Stuff A parent’s love is paramount. But housekeeping counts.
- Adopting On Your Own, the Complete Guide to Adopting as a Single Parent If you are single and exploring the possibilities of parenting through adoption, Adopting on Your Own is a path to discovery. Using real-life examples and practical exercises, Lee Varon—a social worker and co-director of the Adoption Network, a counseling and referral agency that focuses on single parents—helps you assess whether single adoption is the best choice for you and your prospective child. Adopting on Your Own walks the prospective single adopter through the process of making highly personal decisions, and also provides plenty of helpful advice on the nuts and bolts.
- The Complete Single Mother: Reassuring Answers to Your Most Challenging Concerns Engber is founder of the National Organization of Single Mothers and a contributing editor to Working Mother; Klungness is a psychologist who specializes in issues of single mothers. Together, they wrote a comprehensive and practical guide for the single parent, filled with expert information and pragmatic advice. Today's world is rapidly changing -- and so is the family. Focusing on how to raise good kids in stressful times, this book offers solutions for tough problems: helping your children through your divorce, building their self-esteem, finding male role models, and responding to questions like, "Where's Daddy?"
- The Handbook for Single Adoptive Parents Marindin has compiled an anthology of advice and experience from experts as well as a treasure trove of resource information on every facet of single parent adoption. Agencies, finances, country-specific issues, medical concerns, adoption law, private adoption, open adoption, international adoption, older child adoption, and advice and support from seasoned single parents who have been there.
- How To Turn Boys Into Men Without a Man Around the House: A Single Mother’s Guide This is a book single mothers of sons should not ignore. Though thoroughly informed by development, the book is not organized by developmental stages. Rather it focuses on major issues, such as attachment, discipline, and gender identity. Discussion of each issue begins with its origins in infancy and "ends" with young adulthood. Much of good parenting, the authors believe, comes down to planning. Despite the seriousness of the topic, this book is affirming to read. As the authors remind us in the first and the last chapters, their intent is to help us to help our sons grow into strong, loving, and competent men whom we will be proud of and who will be proud of themselves.
- Parenting and Development in Nontraditional Families Lamb and the various contributors explore several types of "nontraditional" families in this book, from single-parent families to multiracial or adoptive families. This book is an eye-opener and a great guide for today’s parents.
- Positive Discipline for Single Parents: Nurturing, Cooperation, Respect and Joy in Your Single-Parent Family Jane Nelson, the author of the popular parenting book, Positive Discipline, wrote this book geared specifically towards single parents. The authors focus on raising children with nonpunitive discipline, through clear communication techniques and child-positive approaches to problem solving.
- The Single Mother’s Survival Guide In this engaging journey of self-discovery, Patrice Karst, a single mother, shares her practical yet witty advice with single moms everywhere. She covers a wide range of topics that concern the modern woman struggling without a mate, showing how it's possible not only to survive but to triumph. The book features dozens of quick "survival checklists" on topics such as dealing with exhaustion and reasons to be happy about being a single mom. Flip open to any page and you'll find earthy bits of inspiration, with a consistently (but not sickeningly) positive slant on childcare, dating, and other facts of single-mom life.
- Single Mothers by Choice: A Guidebook for Single Women Who Are Considering or Have Chosen Motherhood I wish I had read Single Mothers by Choice when I was first deciding whether or not to have a child. It contains excellent chapters on whether single motherhood is right for you, becoming a single mother through conception or through adoption. This is a book that you will refer to over and over, as your child grows. In the same way that many adoption books tell us how to handle adoption issues as our children reach different developmental stages, Single Mothers by Choice explains how not having a daddy is an issue in different ways as your child matures. The book gives simple, concrete advice on how to discuss "the daddy issue" with your child. Excellent bibliography of books on child development, adoption, choosing childcare, children’s and adult fiction concerning single parent families.
- The Single Parent Resource The Single Parent Resource is one of the most practical and comprehensive guides available today. With an easy to navigate table of contents, the book lends itself as a ready reference guide. Because the author, Brooke Noel, was raised in a single parent home, she understands from firsthand experience trials of raising children without a partner. There are chapters on communication and house rules, family dinners and quality time, job burnout and business trips, realistic budgets and how to have a social life while still providing responsible, loving parenting. With scads of quotes from single parents on their frustrations, solutions, and general experiences, it's a support group in text form.>
- Solo Parenting: Raising Strong and Happy FamiliesChambers explores financial, parental, and personal issues related to single parenting with a practical, positive approach. In a nutshell, Solo Parenting focuses on the concept that parental example, in word and action, will ultimately have a great effect on children. Chambers contends that it's up to each parent to decide whether or not it will be a positive or negative effect. "The number of adults in a household should not be a determinant of a child's future success," says Chambers. "It ultimately comes down to the parents' level of commitment to positive change and their willingness to be and live what they expect their children to become. It takes a lot of courage, but it's well worth the effort."
- All Kinds of Families As the title indicates, Zisk’s book is about a single woman who adopts a child, with a straightforward story that celebrates the adoptive mother/child bond. Told, in turns, by the mother and daughter, The Best Single Mom in the World makes a great bedtime story or starting point for talking with your child about her adoption story. Although at times didactic and obviously politically correct, the bright and engaging illustrations make this a cheerful and enjoyable read.
- A Chair For My Mother Rosa, her mother, and her grandmother all live happily together, happy enough save for the fact they have no furniture. Rosa recounts the devastating fire that ravaged their apartment, their year-long savings of coins to buy a new chair, and most of all, the strength of their family. This wonderful story was a 1983 Caldecott Honor book.
- Do I Have a Daddy?: A Story About a Single-Parent Child Erik has never seen his father and wants to know why. She answers his difficult question and others by simply and honestly explaining that there are different kinds of daddies, and Erik's was too young to take on the responsibilities of marriage. She reassures him that she will always be there for him and urges him to spend time with his uncle and grandpa who love him. Excellent section for single parents discusses the totally absent father, and suggests ways of talking about him.
- Families Are Different Pellegrini, a woman with an adopted Korean daughter, writes the story of Caucasian parents, their two adopted Korean daughters and their dog. Told in the voice of the younger daughter, Nico, the familiar concerns of adopted children and their parents are expressed. Nico's mother reassures her by reminding her that no family is exactly alike, and then observes a diverse mix of families including single parent, mixed race, etc., all held together by "a special kind of glue called love."
- The Long Weekend James only wants one thing for his birthday--a long weekend. He and his mother spend the time together at the beach, and he builds sand castles, boats and farms, having the time of his life. But best of all, he has a wonderful time with his mother, creating memories he’ll never forget.
- Monster MamaPatrick’s mother may be a monster, but she bakes cookies, drives him to school in bad weather and nurses him with "the sweetest touch in the world" when he is feeling poorly. Readers will enjoy this lively tale of a boy and his mother, and how she is able to protect him in all circumstances.