Maintaining Connections to Your Child's Pre-Adoption History


When an open adoption fades or isn’t possible, adoptive parents find other ways to maintain a connection to their child’s past.

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“Our Love Stayed with Him”

“Our Love Stayed with Him”

As foster parents, you hope that the love and security you offer will stay in a child’s heart. When we reconnected with a boy we fostered through two reunifications 14 years ago, we found that it had.

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Questions About Birth Siblings

Don't be surprised if your child wants to know about his birth brothers and sisters. Such questions are healthy — and normal.

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“Paying My Respects to My Son’s Birth Mother”

Our son came to us from foster care, in a closed adoption. So how did I find myself walking through the doors of a dark funeral home, preparing to introduce myself to his other family?

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“It’s an Adoption Thing”

In this personal essay, one adoptive mother shares her relationship with her daughter's birth family, and the memories that arise as they prepare to visit.

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Book Excerpt: The Mercy Rule

Read an excerpt from Perri Klass' new novel about a pediatrician who grew up in foster care — and now works with similar at-risk patients.

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Becoming a mother in open adoption

“Running to Mommy”

I knew it would be hard for my daughter’s birth mother to give her up. But I didn’t think I’d feel so guilty for taking her.

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An unexpected and emotional meeting with the birth mother of two children adopted from foster care

“Intimate Strangers”: Birth Parent Contact in Foster Adoption

The 894 pages of my daughter's foster care case history described her birth mother's hard life, scarred by poverty, drug addiction, and homelessness. I never expected to meet her—much less like her.

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“How Our Family Approached Our Birth Parent Search”

Three families describe their relationships with their children's birth parents — deciding to keep in touch, searching for birth parents, and managing an already open adoption.

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