Saying Matthew was "saved" implies doubt about his desirability, his worthiness to be adopted. "After all, you didn't have to take in this baby," is the unspoken message.
As you well know, after becoming a parent, you'll also take on the role of adoption ambassador, fielding questions from and encouraging would-be adopters. We've compiled the responses and back-up data that will set you up for the task.
Is the term 'birth mother' an example of appropriate, positive language — or an offensive and demeaning label?
Help journalists use language that conveys the fact that adoptive families are just like any other by passing along this suggested adoption stylebook.
The document we receive is not called a Mothering Certificate, it's a Certificate of Live Birth. So why isn't the birth mother's name on there?
The world knows a lot more about adoption these days, but not enough. It's our job to keep chipping away at society's biases, for the sake of our kids.
A co-worker made a flippant remark about adoption. Should I respond, or let it go?
Straddling two cultures, this powerhouse Hispanic-American woman takes on the world — and wins!
Is your extended family less than savvy about adoption? Here's how to handle it.