Don’t be afraid to take time to grieve after a failed adoption. Your future family will be better for it.
Adoption Referrals & Expectant Mother Matches
Receiving an international adoption referral or matching with an expectant mother is an exciting step on your adoption process. Learn what to expect in a referral, and how to navigate the match period, in the expert articles and personal stories below.
AF readers share how they reacted when they received their adoption referral.
Don’t agree to any match or referral on the spot. Before moving forward, ask yourself these questions.
What happens when you get a referral?
Having Joseph has helped me put everything in perspective. But before the adoption was final, it was the ride of my life.
I sat at the kitchen table, holding the phone receiver as I waited for Nancy, our social worker at the adoption agency, to come on the line. How could I tell her that I had just been diagnosed with bipolar disorder?
No matter what kind of adoption you’re doing, it’s smart to enlist a pediatrician before you make any other decisions. The American Academy of Pediatrics has a section for adoption medicine, with a directory of members.
Before you choose your adoption path, talk to an adoption pediatrician about risk factors and complications related to prenatal drug and alcohol use.
All parents, biological or adoptive, want perfect children, and all realistic parents understand that there is some risk in having children by any method.
Some adoptions don’t end well. Were we wrong to be afraid?
View the replay of the webinar “Imagining Your Future Child,” with Lauren Jiang, LMSW, to learn how to decide on the age, racial identity, and medical history of the child you will be best equipped to adopt and parent.
What to share, what to discuss, what to look for, and what to expect when you start to look for an expectant mother.
We are in the process of adopting a child who may have been exposed to drugs prenatally. How can I learn more about this topic?
Sometimes life doesn't live up to your hopes; at other times, it surpasses them. When my wife and I got the call, life went beyond my wildest dreams.
For lots of adoptive parents, the hardest part of the process is the “choice" — particularly what age they should adopt.
Openness in adoption should begin long before the expectant mother and adoptive family navigate ongoing contact. An agency and an attorney discuss best practices for working with prospective birth parents.
When our first adoption match fell through, we were devastated.
How you go about searching for your child’s birth mother will depend on what you feel comfortable with.
Answers to your parenting questions.
When creating your family profile, be authentic.