When did you know you were truly your child’s mother or father?
When younger children misbehave, they may not really know that they are misbehaving, and can be easily distracted or physically moved. But by age three to five, a child should be more aware of inappropriate behavior.
So Tiana moved into our bed. As time went on, she began to awaken, startled, reaching her little hand toward my side of the big bed. As soon as she felt me beside her, she would fall back asleep. By her third or fourth month home, Tiana was waking up every 10 minutes to make sure I was beside her. Her panic was palpable.
I think I finally get it. This, what I feel now, is what being a mummy is supposed to feel like. I had wondered if I would immediately fall in love with my child; I thought I would be certain that he was “the one.” But I didn’t.
At 10, Julia is fully attached to my husband and me. We are a solid forever family, the three of us. But our daughter is still reticent about investing passion elsewhere. There are no posters of Justin Bieber in her room. There is no friend from school she calls her BFF. Not one thing that really, really matters.
Whatever your child's history, responsive parenting is key to a secure, loving relationship.
I had expected to form an attachment slowly, but I was instantly smitten with my daughter. She was the one who came around in her own time.
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Adoptive Families magazine mourns the passing of Advisory Board member Gregory C. Keck, Ph.D., coauthor of Parenting the Hurt Child, Adopting the Hurt Child, and other books.
Expert answers to all your common questions about sleeping, feeding, bonding, and more, with an eye to facilitating a strong attachment.
I had gone to the end of the world to find my baby. So why didn't we bond, and why didn't I feel like a mother?
We’d had seven days notice for our first adoption. For our second, four. Now, two. It was as if we’d been training for this moment, and we were at peak performance.
The first year after bringing home an older child is complicated, isolating, utterly frustrating...and amazing.
Answers to your parenting questions.
It wasn't until the birth of my daughter that I realized my son's mother was his adoptive mother.
A little boy. His new mom. What ultimately brought the two of them together? Music, sweet, sweet music.
Still jet-lagged from a 15-hour flight from Los Angeles to Hong Kong, then another to Shanghai and another to your province, I awoke at dawn knowing that this was the day that I would finally meet you—my baby girl.
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We're about to adopt a seven-year-old. Does he have to start school right away? What about medical care? What can wait until we've bonded?